Our First Hotel Takeover

Hello lovelies,
We hope you are doing well and staying sexy this spring! We are gearing up for some sexy summer fun ourselves with our first trip to Naughty In N’awlins fast approaching. We are excited to see old friends and meet new ones. We have had some fun meeting people ahead of time on various platforms and the theme nights seem like a lot of fun. On top of being in such a fun city that we have never been to.

As we approach summer and sexy fun we thought we would share our experience of our first hotel takeover. Since we are going to Naughty In N’awlins this year for the first time, which is a massive hotel takeover with a few thousand people. We thought it was a good idea to go to a smaller hotel takeover to get a feel for it first.

We attended our first hotel party last October for their sexy Halloween party. It was a change from what we have done for the past few years of going to a sexy lifestyle club for Halloween. This time we decided to go to the hotel takeover and weren’t sure what to expect. Halloween is one of the biggest holidays and nights for those in the lifestyle. You get to dress in really provocative costumes and outfits without judgement. This happens in the vanilla world as well, but there is more naughtiness with the sexy lifestyle halloween parties.  

As we drove to the hotel which was a few hours away from us, we discussed ideas of what the hotel may be like and enjoyed catching up on some of our favorite lifestyle podcasts. When we arrived at the hotel it was a cold and rainy afternoon. The type of weather that if we weren’t going out, we would have cuddled up on the couch at home in front of the fireplace. However, as we arrived and noticed sexy couples walking in from the parking lot, with a lot of smiles, costumes in bags, coolers, and security at the door ensuring the right people were entering the hotel we felt a lot more at home and at ease. If you aren’t aware of what a hotel takeover is, it’s when the hotel is closed to the general public for a private event and open only to those attending/staying at the hotel for the event. They have private security at the doors to ensure families aren’t walking in with small kids.

Once we got to our room we got a few things set up, and decided to go walk around the hotel to see the pool, ballroom where the party would be later that night and went to the restaurant in the hotel to have an early dinner. It was the perfect fall afternoon! Stuck inside with like-minded friends, staying warm at the restaurant with a tasty beverage and watching college football while it was so cold and rainy out, while excited to get our sexy costumes on later. As people made their way into the restaurant, there was some nerves with people and some you can tell we’re really nervous. It may have been their first lifestyle event. There was some sexiness in the air with a lot of couples checking out other couples from the distance, sharing smiles from across the bar with a some friendly flirting as well. We chatted with a couple that was somewhat local to us back home and they told us about some friends joining them later that night. It was great to also meet a few couples that we had chatted with online ahead of time. This is fun as you have a familiar face to talk to. When talking with new couples, we realized there were some hiccups that day with the hotel. There had been a room that flooded and went down from the higher floor to the main floor, damaging several rooms in the hotel. This caused several rooms to be out of order and there were several couples that were relocated to their sister property about a mile down the road. While they thought of a solution, it was an inconvenience for those that were being shuttled back and forth between the hotels. We realized this later in the night. Details below.

A short time later we made our way back to our room to relax, have a drink and start getting ready for the night. We went as a sexy daisy duke and cowboy theme look this year. The pics are fun but aren’t able to share!

Always good to enjoy Tito’s and more as you get ready for a sexy night

We make our way to the party and see a lot of sexy people in the hallways, parties happening in various hotel rooms and just a fun time all around. We made our way to the floor known as the party floor. We ran into the couple we saw earlier at the restaurant and met their friends. There were about 5-6 couples that we found ourselves hanging out with. There was an attraction to a couple of them for sure. Especially between the ladies! We had some really nice conversations about the lifestyle as one of the couples this was indeed their first time doing something like this, and another couple had been to one other smaller event. We shared stories of Desire, lifestyle clubs we have been and chatted about life in general. We met a lot of fun people on the party floor, checked out many rooms that were decorated, and some that went all out with their decorations.

A short time later we all made our way to the ballroom area where the bar and dance floor was set up. It was great the way the party hosts had things laid out with the lights, music, dance floor and a fun cage for the ladies to get in and dance. When we found ourselves chatting with a couple, it was very easy to go out the side door to the hallway to have a little more quieter exchange with new friends. As we all danced and had some sexy flirting going on while on the dance floor, the gentlemen all left to go to the bar to get refills for the ladies. One gentleman was chatting with me and let me know in a very nice way, that there was an attraction but they were new. I let him know that in our journey and experiences the best approach is take things slow, don’t rush into anything and realize that the ladies run the lifestyle. We head back to the dance floor and realize the talk we just shared as the husbands went right out of the window. We noticed Mrs. Swanilla had her daisy duke shirt off and was topless on the dance floor, the ladies were kissing each other passionately and there were a lot of things happening. I mentioned to the gentlemen of our new friends, “Looks like they hit it off “. We all danced and had fun and at one point we look over and notice just a few feet off the dance floor, there is this guy dressed up in Halloween costume and notice two ladies kissing him and each other. We noticed how sexy it was and turned our backs for a moment. We look back a minute or two later and noticed both ladies going down on him as he was standing there just enjoying the moment, and still dancing somewhat in place. It was both a hot and unique scene to describe.

One thing we enjoyed about the hotel takeover party, was that it was very easy to head to our room to use the restroom, freshen up and grab drink. We took a break from the ballroom and walked around the party floor a few floors above us. There were some games being played and the crowd wasn’t as large as before the ballroom opened up. We chatted with new friends again and one thing that happened was there were several that kept getting stuck in the elevator. We thought it was going down a floor and it was going up a few floors or not at all.

The night was going by a lot faster than we realized and we went to the ballroom to dance some more and have fun. One couple we were with had mentioned earlier in the night they were relocated from the water damage when they arrived earlier. As the ladies were hitting it off on the dance floor for a third time, the gentleman look at me and said “So you guys do indeed have a room here and weren’t relocated?” I mentioned we did and were staying just a short walk from the dance floor. We all took break to grab water and freshen up. At one point everyone was separated for the costume contest. The DJ was fun, but he let the costume contest drag on for way too long and it started killing the mood and excitement. The ballroom was slowly clearing out. We found ourselves on the party floor again and hadn’t seen our new friends for sometime. We noticed several doors that were “open” and couples going at it. We enjoyed the sights from the hallway a few times. But one thing that we realized was missing was a dedicated play area that many lifestyle clubs and some hotel takeovers do have. Sure everyone has their rooms and that can be and was fun. But with a larger open play area, its very easy to transition from chatting, flirting, touching to, a whisper “we are going to the play area, you are welcome to join us if you are comfortable” . Plus we really enjoy watching, being watched and being around the sexy sounds and sights.

Overall, we had a great time and we are looking forward to attending more hotel takeovers from the same organizers as this one and some other similar hotel takeovers that do indeed have a play area. The next morning we got ready and decided to hit a very authentic ethnic restaurant. As we are walking out of our room, there is a younger twenty something guy who was working at hotel night before. He was personally telling couples “have a good day” with this big grin. We laughed and Mrs. Swanilla was like “Oh I bet he saw some fun things last night compared to a normal day at work”.

One thing we really enjoy about the lifestyle and travel in general. Is that we try to enjoy the city we are in. A fun restaurant, museum, waterfront, concert in another city the night before/after a lifestyle event. It’s a great way to see other parts of the Cities/States/Countries you are visiting. It doesn’t work out every time, but we do try to add some local flavor to our sexy lifestyle fun.

Hugs & Kisses

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

PS – a few days after the party, we received a message from the sexy couple that we got separated from. They told us they thought we went to another room and they went back to their hotel they got transferred to. We realized that we missed their clue about going to our room. Just goes to show that you never stop learning and even being part of the lifestyle for some time now, communication is always important!

A Desire Reunion in Canada! O Canada!

Hello Lovelies,

Hope everyone is staying warm now that winter is officially behind us and spring is here. As the summer months approach, we are very excited to be going to Naughty In Nawlins and possibly some other events to see friends old and new. Speaking of friends old and new, one of the things that attract us to the lifestyle is not just the sexy and playful times with like minded people, but the friendships that naturally develop over time. When you are able to spend quality time with like minded people especially in a setting like Desire where you have a  few days together with very hot, incredible, and sexy experiences that took us to a different level in our journey into the lifestyle, we knew something “clicked” on this trip.

As we have written about in past blog posts, during our last trip to Desire we met some wonderful people that have become friends and some friends with benefits. We stay in touch with most of them as well through certain social media platforms and although most are several States away, we sometimes laugh at things together and know we all have a shared sexy secret. It makes it difficult at times when you hang with your vanilla friends who we love dearly, but when they call it a night at 10pm on a weekend night during a 40th birthday party, you realize some of your vanilla friends can’t keep up in just a fun night out atmosphere.

Even the rest stops are fun in Canada

As we said our goodbyes to our new friends in Desire we knew we would see them again, and it was just a matter of when and where. After a few months of chatting online sharing some laughs and missing each other, a good friend of ours from New York mentioned it was her birthday in a few months and we should celebrate. We all looked at our calendars and figured out logistics of when and where. We would meet in Toronto to spend a wonderful night together with each other. We had friends driving in from New York, New Jersey, and our Canadian friends flew in from Edmonton to Toronto the day before. They just happen to bring their sybian machine with them. And we drove in from Detroit. As we made it to the hotel,  we were checking in and got settled. As we walked to our car to grab a few things, we bump into our Canadian friends who had flown in the day before. Turns out they were coming back the liquor store with drinks, snacks and their suite was right next to ours. This would be very convenient later that night!

The plan was a fun afternoon to see everyone, hang out for a bit, and get all cleaned up and head out for a birthday dinner nearby, then to a sexy lifestyle club to celebrate our friends birthday. As everyone made their way in, we all hung out in the suite and just caught up with everyone. We shared pictures and news of our families, life, and more. As we had group conversations and smaller conversations between everyone it hit us that while we may be States/Countries away these are people we would hang with in our normal day to day life. If any of them found themselves in our city, and wanted to hang we would do our best to be available. All of them would also know to push pause on the lifestyle if vanilla friends were with us as well.

What’s funny, is Mrs. Swanilla and I were talking about how friendships can blossom in life and of course the lifestyle. We joked and said isn’t it funny we have friends that we share such naughty, sexy secrets with? Sometimes shared experiences, sometimes not. But that you have a bond and mutual understanding about the rules of lifestyle. We laughed as we said “we don’t even know any of their last names” but feel closer to many of them than other friends in real life.

We had such a fun time in the afternoon, but there was no sexual play, but a lot of open discussions about sexual things. Just fun to catch up, have a couple drinks, some snacks and just to see everyone. We did inspect our friends sybian machine. Their suite had two rooms, the sybian room and their private room. As we all had laughs and some of us got a little tipsy we realized our window for a fun dinner out was slowly closing, as everyone needed to start getting ready. Someone suggested, why not order take out and have it delivered so we didn’t have to be rushed. We checked with the birthday girl and all decided to stay in so we could have dinner, catch up and still get ready for the club.

After we all got ready we meet in our friends suite before heading out to the club. As we enter we see a couple we didn’t recognize and had to do a double take that we were in the right room. But they had the look and vibe that they were headed to the club. We introduced ourselves and realized there too were from a nearby town in Canada and had met our friends from Edmonton about a year earlier in Desire as well. Turns out we know and have mutual friends in the lifestyle. As many have said, the lifestyle is a sexy but also small community.

Hands roaming everywhere at the club & hotel

We all ended up at the club and had a great time dancing, and having fun in our area that we all hung out in. It was the first time to this club for two of the couples, and they were impressed. They had many stories and mentions of the club from friends, podcasts and our own blog. As we danced and celebrated our friends birthday throughout the night, we asked the birthday girl if she was interested in going to the back room to celebrate. We all undressed and headed to the back playroom. For the newer couple who had never been to a club like this, they were very impressed and had to jump right in. We realized we may have waited just a little too long to head to the back room. It was difficult to find a spot on the massive bed, let alone get comfortable. As we all were standing there naked, some of us kissing, some doing more, someone asked the group if we would like to go back to the hotel and try out the sybian machine? We all got dressed and headed back to the hotel.

Once we got to the hotel, we had sexy music on, some grabbed a drink and others freshened up. As everyone was getting comfortable, I realized I had to grab something from our room next door. I mentioned to Mrs. Swanilla that I would be back but she was in her element and comfortable with friends. I came back about 5 minutes later and Mrs. Swanilla was sitting naked on the couch along with a couple friends. I walked into the room and noticed comfortable she was. In a weird way, it reminded me of Desire, being naked with friends, comfortable and just a lot of smiles on peoples faces.

So many toys, so little time…..

After a few minutes we all headed to the sybian playroom, and our friends showed us how it worked, the various attachments and how it can sound like a jet taking off. We also had brought several of our toys and had them with the sybian. The ladies were excited and maybe a little nervous as it was most of the ladies first time on a sybian. The ladies slowly got on the sybian and took turns enjoying it. Slow to medium, to slow, to faster, to a friend sitting in front of them while they were on the machine having fun. After each lovely lady had a turn, and usually several orgasms, Mrs. Swanilla jumped on again for round two. As we all enjoyed the show, a friend jumped up with her and the two of them had fun. Before we realized it many of us were naked in bed with lots of yummy things happening. Mrs. Swanilla became “the birthday cake” for our friend the birthday girl. As everyone was enjoying themselves, the night was slowly winding down as we approached 5:00am. Many hugs while naked, high-fives and many late night snacks. As we left our friends room, I noticed Mrs. Swanilla walking back to our room holding a couple of her clothes, as she slowly walked naked to our room. We were really close in the hall, but I mentioned to her the next day, “seems like we are ready for our first hotel takeover?”

The next morning was pretty rough with everyone, and the majority of everyone had 4-8 hour drives home. Our friends had a 3.5 hour flight home later that afternoon. We decided to all go out to brunch and just catch up a little more. As we enjoyed our brunch and said our goodbyes, we all had kisses, longer kisses and hugs and fun whispers of what do the people sitting around us think as we all our kissing everyone goodbye. It was a long drive home but a wonderful trip to see everyone and celebrate our friends birthday with her.

This was a really fun trip to see good people and it truly was a Desire reunion. We were bummed a few other friends weren’t able to make it. But when people are spread out all over the country or other countries, it does make it challenging at times. There is a talk of another Desire reunion this fall, with a few friends looking into flights already. It would be great to see everyone again.

Hugs & Kisses,

The Swanilla’s


A New year, New experiences & a cold winter

Hello Lovelies,

We hope everyone is off to a sexy 2019 and having fun staying connected and warm during these winter months. We have been doing everything we can to stay warm in this deep freeze we have had the last several weeks here in the Midwest. With subzero temperatures, we found it very easy to slip into bed naked to use our bodies to stay warm! We spent our holidays with family and catching up. We thought of a lot of our sexy lifestyle friends who were having a naughty new years eve. We would love to have a naughty new years even one year. Perhaps we can figure something out in the next couple years. It’s very difficult to find an overnight sitter for NYE at this point. We did however have a very sexy naughty stocking day. We decided to both take the day off, and order in and made a complete day of our naughty time. Mrs. Swanilla got a great gift that she had always talked about and was very excited that she thanked me in a very sexy and sensual way! It was nice to have such a great day, opening sexy gifts, listening to podcasts, and just talking, and having passionate sex several times.

With the new year comes a lot of exciting things that make getting through the winter just a little easier.

We are excited that we’re headed to Naughty in N’awlins (NIN) for the first time this July. We have talked about going for a few years and have heard many friends in the lifestyle and on podcasts talk about how fun it is. We found out some friends of ours are going and it’s always fun to see them at events and resorts. There is a Podcasters & Bloggers Meet & Greet on the second day that we are happy to be part of. It will be great to meet some podcasters that we have been listening to for years and bloggers that we have been reading for some time now. It looks like there are a lot of podcast groups going this year. Swinging Downunder, Swinger Diaries, Average Swingers, Our Naughty Escapades, Two to Tango, Torrid Souls, Sex Uninterrupted, Casual Swingers, and We Gotta Thing. It will be fun to meet so many great podcasters that have not only given us some great stories and entertainment over the years. But also forced us to hit pause several times and ask each other some deep and meaningful questions. About the lifestyle, about us a couple and some good takeaways on growing and communicating.


This is our first trip to New Orleans so we are excited to see some of the areas and check out some great watering holes and restaurants. From what we have read and listened to, it seems like there is so much to do that it can very overwhelming and a lot to take in. We heard on one podcast that if you go one year just to party, check out fun seminars and sexy parties, and go another year to see the landmarks, architecture, etc. its a great way to balance things out. We will try to do a mixture of both as there are some cool things we would like to see while there. But also know there will be some great seminars and friends we would like to connect with – old & new.

We are very excited with what 2019 has in store for us and looking into new clubs and events that sound really exciting. We are also excited to be posting some great stories and sexy thoughts with all of you.

PS – We wish all of you sexies a very naughty valentine’s day this week!

Hugs & Kisses,

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla
Beyond Our Bedroom