Hello, Lovelies,

It’s been a hot minute since our last update, but we hope you’ve all been thriving and diving into the sexy vibes of spring!

Balancing family time, sports, home renovations, career aspirations, and life’s little surprises has been quite the dance lately. Despite the whirlwind, we’ve been indulging in some seriously fun escapades, from hitting up lifestyle events and clubs to jet-setting for some sexy adventures and taking time to focus on ourselves.

Our 2022 was filled with much-needed family getaways, including checking off some bucket list trips that really were our revenge travel. After the rollercoaster of the past few years, these breaks were like a breath of fresh air and was nice to recharge.

During this same time, we were able to have a sexy adventure to a fun city in the southwest, where we finally had some alone time as a couple for the first time since the world changed in 2020. We were ready to be a couple, have alone time, and enjoy sightseeing the city. After a nice dinner out, we headed back to our hotel room to get ready for a fun night at the club. As the Uber arrived, we were filled with excitement for the evening. Dancing, tasty cocktails, being out as a couple, and sexy mischief! We had been to a handful of lifestyle clubs and were excited to see what this club was like. We knew going on a Friday night compared to Saturday may be somewhat slower, but this was our only chance to attend as we had other plans that weekend. We plan on sharing an interesting story or two from this experience and always said we enjoy sharing our journey in the lifestyle on our blog. This includes the good, the bad, and the ugly.

As we moved into 2023, our schedule opened up, allowing us to drive headfirst into some steamy and sexy lifestyle events, including the unforgettable Libertine/Podcast-A-Palooza in Miami and Montreal. Both were really fun, unique, and just what we were looking for. Huge shoutout to Cate for creating such incredible experiences. We shared with her that she has something really great going, and has found a sweet spot. We’re beyond thrilled to join her for more adventures in 2024!

Another first for us was we also dipped our toes into local events, realizing that while we adore travel to sexy events. We also realize that life is short, and we can’t make a trip to Desire or other fun events and cities every two months. We have been able to spend some quality time reflecting on what enjoy in the lifestyle. One thing we have realized is we enjoy making new friends that we share a sexy secret with. After a long weekend in Miami meeting new people, getting to know them, and sharing some laughs, drinks and sometimes more. We realized if they lived near us, we would love to hang out with them. While we only had a few days with several new friends, it was bittersweet to say goodbye at the end of the event. Sweet that we were able to meet everyone, have a wonderful time, and leave with smiles and new friendships. It was bitter because some we weren’t sure when we would see again, and for some, we knew it was going to be about a year.

Back home, and in the routine of daily life, we found ourselves reflecting on new friendships, future events, and what our newfound freedom looks like as our kids are getting older. This led us to think about our next trip just seven weeks later to Montreal for another Libertine event with Cate and friends both old and new.

Stay tuned as we share more details from our recent naughty escapades, in a sexy and respectful way. We strive to share our journey, without sharing too many details on others that may be involved. In our recent experiences, we realize that we really do have a soft spot for events that are curated, yet flexible, sexy, classy, and have a touch of sass.

As the spring breeze kisses our cheeks here in Michigan, we’re bubbling with excitement for the adventures that lie ahead with events we have planned. Of course, meeting new friends, seeing old ones, and our eagerly anticipated return to our favorite place, Desire.

Until next time, stay sexy!


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla


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