Happy Halloween from Beyond Our Bedroom

Hello lovelies,

While we have not had a chance to post our wonderful memories of our amazing and life-changing trip to Desire from a couple months ago, or our trip to a sexy club with friends last month. We promise the stories will be worth the wait!!! We have several stories ready to go, and even ended up having intense passionate sex while typing them, reading them and talking about our memories. A laptop repair also delayed us in getting our posts out.

In the meantime, have a sexy and naughty Halloween! We are headed to Toronto to see a few couples we met at Desire. It will be a lot of fun to see everyone and have a mini-Desire reunion.

We did change our blog address to http://www.beyondourbedroom.com/ so be sure to bookmark the new address! Look for several new blog posts soon.


The Swanilla’s 

Are these our costumes for the sexy Halloween party?????

Guest Blog: Returning to Desire for second time

Hello Lovelies, 

We have a lovely couple that we know from fun gatherings in the past, B&J. We are posting their take as a guest blog post for their second time returning to Desire. 


Guest Blog: Returning to Desire for the second time

As we get our things together for our second trip to Desire, our thoughts go back to that first trip. For transparency, be aware that we were two years into our Lifestyle (LS) journey before we stepped foot into Mexico, so we were not complete newbies. We had already attended a few hotel takeovers, visited multiple clubs, etc. so we were excited but not afraid of what we would see. Plus, we had some friends whose trip overlapped ours that we would be meeting. I’ll refer to us as B&J, because if those are your initials, why not?

We booked pretty last minute through the resort website and had maybe a month to get outfits together and think about what the resort would really be like. Photos on a website can be misleading and some of our club experiences back that up, so expectations were high because of reviews but also realistic. We didn’t think the resort would be filled with only the model types they use on the website. The flight was fun; trying to scope out who might be heading our way is a must. The instructions they give for your hotel transfer were helpful and specific, so we had no problems finding our driver. J likes it warm but B was happy the car had the ac cranked for the trip over.

When you walk in the door, you are treated with respect; the service is amazing. Our luggage disappeared, we were shown to seats and handed flutes of champagne. J had to go through three or four glasses by the time we went through check in, wristbands, the rules. Every time your glass is empty, another magically appears until you say no thank you. The check-in process is meant to make sure everyone has their privacy protected and feels safe. No means no everywhere, even at an LS resort 

After a quick tour, we headed to the pool bar with our carry-on and grabbed seats and drinks. People in various states of dress and undress were mingling on the deck and in the water. The bar has a dry side that faces the lunch buffet and a swim up the side so you don’t have to leave the water (side note: the pool deck can be VERY slippery when you get out, proceed with caution). Before you know it, some very nice couples had introduced themselves and stated: “First time here, huh?” B & J wondered if we had newbie wristbands but were assured it was because we were still clothed.

We hadn’t thought to pack suits in our travel on, but it took very little encouragement for J to head to the ladies room to ditch her travel clothes. J loves being naked. B is usually more of a voyeur and less of an exhibitionist, but the resort feels safe and natural, so he headed to the men’s room and we both were down to undies before our friends found us. It wasn’t long before someone came and informed us our room was ready, our luggage was waiting for us and we went to change into suits.

We’ll be honest, the room we paid for is not a high-end luxury suite. We’ve stayed in fancier rooms. But the rooms are clean, bright, large beds and functional bathrooms. The mini-fridge is stocked with water, soda, and beer. J always unpacks when we get into a hotel room, so she loved the large closet that held all our outfits and luggage. The view from our room was amazing and we lucked out on the location. Just far, enough away from the lobby bar to mute late night noise, but close enough to be a quick trip to all the action. And hopefully, you won’t be spending much time in the room anyway.

The pool is a great place to meet new people. The Riviera Maya pool is more active, chatty… lots of kissing and touching. The Pearl pool was a bit more reserved, maybe because it’s larger and people are spread farther out. There is also beach areas at both resorts, RM having more room and a bar right on the beach. It also has a row of beds behind the lounge chairs. The year we were there, they were off limits for sex. The beach has security even at night so we felt safe heading down together or alone at any time.

We both felt the food was great. Breakfast was a buffet in the largest restaurant. Definitely, try one of the special juice blends for a quick recovery/ morning pickup. You can get a made to order omelet, browse dishes that range from traditional Mexican to what you would find in an American place. J’s a foodie, so she tried as many different foods as possible. She also doesn’t eat dairy and was thrilled to find many choices that were dairy free. Lunch for us was at the poolside buffet most days. One day we were spending a lazy day poolside (reserve a bed early if you want to be sure to get one) and they delivered us wonderful hamburgers and drinks without having to leave the lounges.

Dinners have choices. Reserve early if you want one of the smaller places or your only choice will be the larger restaurant where breakfast is served. We ate at all of the restaurants at Desire Riviera Maya and one at Pearl. Service is outstanding! You have choices and will never be hungry. They have no problem bringing you a second entree if you are still hungry. We did manage to get the Hibachi show one night. Space is limited on that so book early if you really want it. They were also super accommodating and seated our group of twelve at Sahlo, which is supposed to be a more intimate setting. They also were willing to seat our party of 10 at Pearl when the tables are for four; we sat five ladies at one table and the five men at another. The talk was great and the men sent over champagne.
Remember that although this is a clothing optional resort, the board of health rules require

Picture is NOT J; just an example 

clothing at restaurants. B would just throw a shirt over his bathing suit at lunch; J bought a variety of beach wraps, some were sheer, but still acceptable for breakfast and lunch. After a day of lounging around naked or nearly naked, most people dressed nicely for dinner (theme night outfits would show up after dinner). Evenings after dinner are about the club, drinks and late night made to order pizza (note: you are not supposed to feed the raccoons your pizza crusts, but they show up looking for it anyway).

Thoughts on clothing (or not)
You will see a variety of dress and a variety of body types. One of the things J took away from this trip is how quickly the lack of clothing just becomes a non-issue. What you put on for theme nights is more interesting than when someone takes it all off later. The first day at the resort, J was walking on the beach while B took a recovery power nap. A charming young man wandered up to introduce himself (and point out his wife taking her recovery power nap on one of the beach beds). He started with “Hi! Does it make you nervous to have a naked stranger walk up and introduce themselves?” To which the answer was no.

Theme nights: 
J loves them, so of course, she packed outfits for both her and B for every night. She wore one or two. Not sure if it was just that week, but most nights the themes were ignored and people went from dinner to the club to the hot tub or the bar in the courtyard. J was typically in panties eating pizza by 1 or 2 am. B prefers shorts. J is hoping the theme outfits are more prevalent this trip.
(Resort sponsored) Yoga (Pearl had Zumba while we were there), pool volleyball (we missed the foam party by a day, making sure we’re there this time), couples massage which B wouldn’t do but we heard great things (remember he’s more of a voyeur), Pearl had beach volleyball every day, they had a popular LS radio show doing live broadcast every other day at each resort. There were other options but we really spent our days talking or relaxing.
The People: 
Even if you hit a time, when there are not tons of LS people, anyone who chooses Desire for their vacation is going to be pretty open minded. Most LS people will be open, honest, and straightforward and it was not any different here. Be ready to hear stories about how asking a couple walking past to take pictures in their room turn into amazing foursomes. Chatting in the pool, I had a couple compliment my breasts and ask if they could kiss them. We never had anyone be disrespectful or touch without asking.
Favorite memories: 
B took his first yoga class, went for his first massage and would actually lounge completely naked at the pool! J loved waking up as the sun was rising, tottering naked to the bar and getting a cup of coffee to take to the beach and watch the sunrise. Having late night sex in the forbidden beach beds with the security guard pretending to not notice. We hear they are not off limits anymore, which takes some of the fun out of it. Dancing in the rain to a reggae band with the sexy ladies. Dancing like a Jamaican according to the band requires the ladies to line up in front of the stage, feet wide, knees bent and get nice and loose 🙂

The men’s changing room at Pearl!

We took our day pass over to Pearl to spend the day with friends and asked if there was a place that we could change before dinner. They showed us to the ladies and men’s rooms near the lobby. The men’s room leads to the spa. For safety, men are not allowed into the ladies room (J checked it out, nice but a bathroom) but ladies are allowed in the men’s room if accompanied by their partner. There were lockers that we ditched our clothes in then walked through to find the showers. Beautiful is an understatement. Big hot tub, deep plunge whirlpool, steam room, showers with multiple shower heads… I can’t believe we were the only couple taking advantage of it.
We didn’t know there was a Desire Resorts forum, we didn’t know the hot tub was the place to be in the afternoon and late night, and we have a great knack for making friends with people you’d swear are LS to find out they’re just open minded. We are masters of the friend zone.

The yoga mats were bad and they will give you the Premier time-share sales pitch. Honestly, we have no other complaints.
And for the sake of transparency, we’re now Premier members.  


We’re headed back to Desire!

Hello Lovelies,

We hope everyone is having a very sexy and sensual summer so far. Things have been busy in our vanilla/day to day life and we haven’t had a lot of time for sexy fun. But the good news is we are headed back to Desire Riviera Maya very soon and staying a week this time!

It has been a lot of fun chatting with not only sexy couples ahead of time on various platforms and getting to know many couples that will be there the same time as us. But knowing, that they all seem like good people. We are really looking forward to getting away and enjoying ourselves. Life has been hectic for a long time and we are ready for cold beverages, meeting new friends, naps on the beach, craziness in the pool, happy hours in the hot tub, dressing up for dinner and sexy theme nights. But overall we are really looking forward to spending time together as a couple. We have a lot to celebrate and we are looking forward to a sexy vacation!

 We have a lot of sexy, sensual and swanilla fun planned for the new few months and look forward to seeing old friends and making new ones.

Also, we are going to do a few different things on our blog from time to time. With one being having a guest couple post a sexy story or two. It could be related to Desire, a Lifestyle club/hotel takeover or a fun experience somewhere else, etc. We will have a guest post shortly from a couple that we know from fun times in Toronto & who will be at Desire the same time as us very soon.

Be sure to check back often for updated blog posts, you never know where our journey may take us.

Kisses, 💋💋💋

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Summer is here! What’s new with The Swanilla’s???

Hello Lovelies,

Mr & Mrs. Swanilla checking in after quite some time since our last post! We hope everyone is doing well!

Simply put, we have had been extremely busy the first several months into 2017 that we have struggled to have our regular date nights and reconnect. Life has been busy but we are finally seeing some commitments coming to an end so we can focus on things that are sexier!

We had a lot of family events from before Thanksgiving through the holidays and well into 2017. Because our logistics and schedules were a little off the last few months, it actually took us until the second week of January to exchange our sexy stockings that we do. Thanks to Mr & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast for the idea of the sexy stockings! We have done it a couple years in a row now and it does make it a lot easier to have a dedicated theme night and fun gift exchange. In years past we would try to sneak a gift when no one was around or later in the day. So having a separate night that is essentially a Sexy and fun Christmas date night does make it easier. Especially when you know that the house will be full of family and friends for days at a time. We had a lot of fun on our stocking exchange, even if we had to wait until mid-January to do it. Mrs. Swanilla got a new toy, the cordless version of the Magic Wand and also some sexy lingerie (see pic)

..and the model even looks like Mrs. Swanilla too!- Swinger Diaries 
We ended 2016 with a fun trip to Toronto and a visit to the club for their annual Halloween party. We were able to make a weekend out of it this time and spend a few days in Toronto and enjoy some time together. We decided to go for the weekend and noticed it was Latin Dance/Club Havana night at the club. It was our first time experiencing a Friday night at the club and we weren’t sure what to expect. As we looked into going both nights, we realized that select single guys were allowed on Fridays. As we discussed it Mrs. Swanilla said: “If the club is as classy as we know they are, I trust their judgment on finding guys that would be respectful and not creepers”. It made me feel a lot better hearing her not only say that but that she was at ease. Other husbands/boyfriends may relate to this, but it makes the night and experience more enjoyable knowing that your beautiful wife is not only at ease but feels safe and respected so she can enjoy herself and focus on things like the shoes that match her outfit. Plus we really wanted to experience a night of fun latin dancing. We both enjoy Latin dancing of merengue, salsa, and bachata. We went to a nice restaurant beforehand and had a great romantic dinner just the two of us and felt good just to reconnect after some busy schedules in our lives. We try to make an attempt to do that in our vanilla world as well on a regular basis.  

After dinner, we headed back to our hotel to change into outfits that were a little sexier and may not have been appropriate for the restaurant. Unless we were having dinner at Desire! As we were leaving we noticed several young kids around the hotel playing hallway hockey and their parents all in one room just drinking with the door open. We somewhat thought “well it’s Friday, I am sure they will all be gone by tomorrow when the hotel is full of fun people in the lifestyle headed to the Halloween party.”

We arrived at the club, grabbed a drink and checked out the place. The music was fun and we knew we would have a great time no matter what, as we have each other first and foremost. We didn’t notice any single guys anywhere and honestly forgot about it being a Friday night. We did notice that as the night progressed that there were maybe 30-35 people there total and it was a slower night than we had thought. But then it hit us, this is the night before one of the biggest Swinger/Lifestyle events of the year. In the lifestyle, it seems that Halloween, Valentine’s Day and New Years are very big events of course. Although it was slower than we thought, we had a lot, of fun just dancing latin music together, and noticing some of the other couples. We could tell there were a few couples that it may have been their first time there and they looked a little nervous. There was one couple that had a little look of nervousness but looked sexy, Mrs. Swanilla whispered to me “I  just stared at them like I was eye fucking them and she turned away nervously

After a few dances, Mrs. Swanilla said she was going to the bar to get us a couple of cocktails. Because it was slower than usual, and we had already spent our first time at Desire in Mexico, we both felt like our confidence has improved and didn’t have anywhere near the nervousness we had in the past. When she came back, she mentioned that there was a guy at the bar really checking her out up and down. She said she gave him a smile and looked for his wife or girlfriend, and then she realized he was alone. Agh, the single guy. More on this in a future post.

Towards the end of the night, we realized that the mood wasn’t quite there for us to head to the back playroom. But we did notice two couples that hit it off and they both had a little nervousness between the four of them. We thought of possibly heading to the back area to at least play near them and enjoy the show. But we couldn’t tell if they had a private room or went to the open play area. So we decided to call it a night, head back to the hotel and have our own fun! As we were ready to call it a night, a lady that had been friendly to us earlier stopped Mrs. Swanilla and says “aren’t you guys going to the back playroom?” Mrs. Swanilla said to her, “no, not tonight sweetie but we will be here again tomorrow for the Halloween party”. The girl had a playful pout on her face as we smiled. Only if she had asked 20 minutes earlier.

Once we got back to the hotel, within seconds we were both just going at it in a very intense and sensual way! Just being in that environment with only a small crowd still got us in the mood. The combination of being away for the weekend, having a great time together all night and perhaps the confidence or spark that a couple people had flirted with us got us both very hot! We both had a few cocktails in us and weren’t at home so didn’t care how loud we were at 2am! Of course the next morning we realized right across the hall were several rooms full of kids and parents for a hockey tournament! We totally forgot! That made an awkward and somewhat fun time at the continental breakfast buffet in the hotel!

The next day we decided to head to downtown Toronto and do a little exploring while in town. We have been to Toronto several times, both for sexy fun weekends and for family vacations. We love the city and always find something new to see, a cool area to check out or just to head towards Lake Ontario or downtown and check it out. After spending the afternoon playing tourists, we headed back to the hotel to start getting ready for Halloween party. We both were excited as this brought back memories of theme nights we had from not only previous club visits but our trip to Desire a few months prior. We both decided to wear outfits that were a little more revealing than we would have in the past. It may have been because we feel more comfortable after spending several days in Mexico with new friends naked most of the day. And perhaps we both just felt like we were in good shape and could pull off certain outfits.

Sexy Halloween Party

As we got ready to our fun and sexy playlist #SexySwanilla full of sensual music, Latin dance, and music that just makes you smile! We reassured each other how great the other looked and how we were looking forward to a fun time. It’s always fun to leave your room to the hotel lobby not knowing who you will see in the hallway and hope you don’t bump into several families or vanilla’s on your way to the lobby to meet others headed to the club. Of course, as we open our door the hockey parents are in their room with other parents in their sweatpants, watching TV and see us headed to some sort of Halloween party! What were they thinking…..?????

As we reach the elevator there are two other couples that are all dressed up, or actually not really dressed at all with their outfits. We all smile and laugh and say “where are you guys headed?” It almost seems when you’re in a hotel that isn’t a complete take over you’re always nervous as to who may see you that isn’t part of the lifestyle or the party at least that night. But once you reach the elevator or other like-minded people or the hotel lobby where there seems to be several of us it’s very easy to hang out, share some laughs and strike up conversations with others about the club or the lifestyle in general. Perhaps strength in numbers. We ended up chatting with a couple from New York as we waited on the shuttle about Desire and our trip and how they go a couple times a year as well. It’s fun to chat so you have a familiar face at the club later you can say hello to again or have taking fun pics while dressed up in your costumes.

Once we arrived at the club in the shuttle we were able to skip the line since so many people staying at the hotel had done an early check-in with the club earlier that day. The crowd Saturday night compared to Friday night was night and day difference. You could barely find a place to stand let alone dance on Saturday. We were able to stand, dance, sit anywhere we wanted on Friday. This was our third Halloween party at the club and it had to be the biggest we had seen.

Despite being in such a larger crowd, we had the pleasure of finally meeting the lovely Penn & Paige from the Swinger Diaries podcast. They are such a wonderful, fun and sexy couple who compliment each other very well. It actually felt like we already had known each other from chatting over the years and of course listening to them on car rides or over a glass of wine. While chatting Penn laughed and of course we recognized his laugh from the podcast. It was great to finally catch up with them, and have a drink together. If you haven’t met them in person yet, they are just as sweet as you would imagine!

As the night progressed the temperature of the room was definitely heating up on many levels! We noticed several people getting in the mood on the dance floor, on the couches around the dance floor so we decided to head to the back playroom. Depending on the time you head to the back playroom, you tend to see sexier things on the dance floor as the mood hits people at a certain time of the night. As we got undressed and made our way back to playroom, we both felt very comfortable and not nearly as nervous as we had in the past. We figured being at Desire for several days a few months prior help shed certain nerves. We had butterflies on the possibilities of the evening, but nervous wasn’t the right word as we undressed and walked slowly through the playroom enjoying the scenery around us. We found ourselves in the larger back playroom. We had never been in the room before besides looking in briefly. But the sounds, and views were too much and we just had to see more. After taking our time to enjoy the sights and sounds by slowly walking around and stopping and kissing along the way we finally found a spot on the large play area.

The perfect place to meet new friends 

As we are started to kiss and slowly touch each other the sounds were turning us both on to another level. Mrs. Swanilla couldn’t handle it and slowly pushed my face down her body until I was able to slowly kiss and lick her in all the right places. After a few minutes of tasting her, I opened my eyes and noticed some sexy hands caressing her body. She really was enjoying the attention she was receiving and was on sensory overload. After a few more minutes of enjoying my tongue and the hands of new friends, she turned me over and started sucking me. We watched each other in the mirrors all around us, watched the sexy couples next to us on the side, the foursome on our other side. Mrs. Swanilla finally told me to start fucking her! She was so wet and juicy on top of her surroundings that she was becoming one of the loudest in the room! It was pretty hot to see so many couples in the middle of playing, stop in the middle of play and just pop their heads up and watch us. Almost like little prairie dogs sticking their heads up to watch, and then went back to their own fun! To say we enjoyed ourselves that night would be an understatement.

About a week later we were having a fun sexy twitter chat and doing some Q&A with others about their sexy Halloween fun! We tweeted on the chat that we enjoyed ourselves at the club in Toronto, and noticed a response from Swinger Diaries that said: “We enjoyed the show that Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla put on for everyone“. We started laughing as we hadn’t realized they were in the same room, as we had ‘lost’ them in the puppy pile.

A few weeks later there was a fun chat on Twitter among some lifestyle couples and the question was about possible sexy gifts for Christmas. I posted the pic above of model in the pink lingerie and that I was going to buy that for Mrs. Swanilla for her naughty stocking gift. There was a fun response from Swinger Diaries that said ….and the model even looks like Mrs. Swanilla too! After Mrs. Swanilla opened her stocking and tried on her sexy lingerie, I showed her the tweet and she smiled in her usual playful way!

Stay tuned for more blog posts and updates as we have some fun topics in the works, some sexy travel scheduled, and other events we are thinking of attending.


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Best Lifestyle Blog 2017! We’ve been nominated!

Hello Sexy Friends! 

We received notice that we have been nominated for Best Lifestyle Blog at the 2017 Annual Lifestyle Awards. We are very humbled that someone nominated us, and that many of you are enjoying our sexy stories on our blog. We consider this a fun and creative outlet to share our journey and stories and it’s pretty special to be in the same category with so many other great lifestyle blogs. 

There are also categories for Best Lifestyle Podcast, Best Lifestyle Resort, Best Lifestyle Clubs, and Best Lifestyle Educators. While we have our favorites, each podcast, blog, educator, resort, club, etc. offers something for just about everyone in the lifestyle or those that are curious to learn more. Just like there are 31 flavors at Baskin Robbins, chose your favorite flavor. However, vanilla probably isn’t on the menu!

The Swanilla's
Swanilla, not Vanilla

Please take the time to vote for us if you feel we provide a fun look at the lifestyle through our blog.

Vote Here: http://www.annuallifestyleawards.com/vote-here-new/ 

While we wish we could be at Naughty in N’awlins this year with the other sexy nominees in all the categories, we are unable to make it. But in other sexy news we are headed back to Desire this summer. 


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Have a Sexy Holiday Season!

Hello Lovelies! Tis the season!

We wanted to wish everyone a wonderful Holiday season filled with joy & so much more in 2017! Hopefully, you get to be naughty this season and have lots of sexy fun!

New stories and posts coming soon!

Hugs & Kisses

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla
Beyond Our Bedroom