Hello Lovelies,
Spring is finally here, and we’re so ready for warmer weather, outdoor adventures, and some serious summer fun. What better way to kick things off than by heading to our fourth Libertine event this time in sizzling Miami? If you’ve never been to a Libertine event, buckle up. Think, great people, fun locations, creative theme nights, and a vibe that’s sexy, open-minded, and full of energy. But it’s not just about the party, it’s about the community. As we pack our bags (and probably overpack for theme night outfits, we regret nothing Cate), we can’t help but reflect on our last Libertine adventure in San Antonio.
San Antonio Flashbacks: Friends, Laughs & Alamo Bucket Lists
We’d never been to San Antonio but had heard great things and it didn’t disappoint. Despite arriving sleep deprived, our energy instantly shifted when we ran into Jay & Angie from Average Swingers and the always fabulous Tiff & Rachel from Sapphic Swingers. These are the kinds of people who make you laugh until your cheeks hurt. Within minutes, we also bumped into Mr. & Mrs. Stinger from Just Keep Swinging and some of our LA friends we originally met at a Libertine event in Miami.
Our LA friends joined us for lunch along the scenic Riverwalk and checked off a bucket list stop at The Alamo though we totally forgot our “Where’s the basement?” sign. Missed opportunity, but still a great way to see the city before the event officially kicked off. Pro tip, arriving a day early is a game changer. It gives you time to settle in, decompress from travel, and even explore the local sights. We try to do this, when possible, but it doesn’t always work.
Glow Night with a Twist: Dancing into Another Dimension
Theme nights are one of our favorite parts of Libertine events. Cate and her team don’t just recycle the same old ideas they add a twist that makes you think outside the (bedroom) box.
For example, instead of a typical glow night, San Antonio featured UV Utopia, a visually stunning, ultra sexy experience that had everyone lit up in the best way. The dance floor was electric, but the real highlight. Watching Angie and Mrs. Swanilla get into a rhythm that had the whole room cheering. It wasn’t just hot, it was connected!
“When you find a dance partner & it clicks, Magic! Angie is my dance partner going forward! That girl can dance!” – Mrs. Swanilla
Why Libertine Events Feel Different
There are a lot of lifestyle events out there, but Libertine hits different, to us. Here’s why:
- Cate does the work, vetting hotels, hiring local staff, creating a thoughtful itinerary. There is something for everyone.
- All businesses need to make a profit, or they won’t be around long. But she doesn’t just hire any vendor, or work with any hotel. It’s about setting standards and curating experiences.
- There’s a genuine feeling of community, not just a party crowd.
- It is easy to take some time as a couple to explore the city and have a nice dinner as a couple, or with new friends.
- And yes, the sexy vibes are very much alive (and encouraged).
Since Libertine only hosts a few events per year across the U.S., Canada, and Europe, we really make space in our calendars for them. We can’t hit every lifestyle event out there (as much as we’d love to), but we prioritize the ones that feel like home, yet pushes our boundaries to try new things, new experiences, new cities and meeting new people. Future friends as we call them.
Lifestyle Friendships: More Than Just Party Buddies
When people hear about the lifestyle, they often assume it’s all about hookups, hotel rooms, and steamy nights and sure, that’s part of the fun. But what many outside the lifestyle don’t realize is just how deep friendships can go. We’ve met some close friends through lifestyle events, and we celebrate milestones with, look for travel with, and text just to share random memes or life updates. These aren’t just people we see once in a playroom or dance floor and forget. These are folks we’ve built real friendships with.
Why do these friendships form so quickly and go deeper than many vanilla friendships? A few reasons that we have learned.
- Shared Vulnerability: Let’s be honest, being in the lifestyle requires a lot of trust, communication, and openness not just with your partner, but with others. When you’re already being real about desires, boundaries, insecurities, and joy, it opens the door for more authentic friendships.
- Low Judgement Zones: Lifestyle circles are often some of the most nonjudgmental places you’ll find. People are accepted for who they are, how they love, what they wear (or don’t), and how they show up in the world. That makes it easier to just be yourself, and that’s where real friendship flourishes.
- More Than Sexy, They’re Fun!: We’ve found that many of the people we click with in the lifestyle are just genuinely fun people. They’re curious, adventurous, open-minded, and love a good time, whether that’s on the dance floor, in deep conversation over drinks, or exploring a new city.
- Support Beyond Events: Some of our lifestyle friends have become sounding boards during life’s tougher seasons whether it’s work stress, relationship bumps, or family stuff. These friendships can feel like chosen family, people who get you, without needing to explain your choices or lifestyle.
- Friendship Doesn’t Always Equal Play: Not every connection leads to play and that’s perfectly okay. In fact, some of our deepest friendships have nothing to do with physical chemistry and everything to do with emotional connection, trust, and shared experience. Sometimes, knowing there’s no pressure makes the bond even stronger.
As we gear up for another unforgettable Libertine event in Miami, we’re reminded that it’s not just about parties or the themes, it’s about the connections and us as a couple growing. Whether we’re chilling by the pool, exploring a new city, or catching up with old friends, these moments are what make the lifestyle feel like home. We can’t wait to see familiar faces and meet new ones, sharing stories, laughing, and having fun times on the dance floor along the way. Here’s to new adventures, deeper friendships, and one amazing Miami experience!
Until next time, stay sexy, stay open, and keep exploring.
XOXO,
Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla
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