Hello Everyone,

We have NOT given up on our blog. We have had some technical issues with blog posts not going out and trying to resolve a few things behind the scenes.

We have several posts ready to go, but want to ensure everything is working, etc. If anyone has any tips on blogger, settings, email us.

Stay tuned…….

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Happy Sexy Swinging Spring!

Wow! We can’t believe it is spring and our last blog was just prior to the holidays!!!! Where does the time go?

Our vanilla life has been very busy the first several months of 2013 and we just didn’t have a lot of time for extra stuff. Just laid low for the winter but we did catch up on a lot of things in our sexy life including a lot of fun nights in front of the fire place. We completed Season 2 of SWING on Playboy. Since we gave a review of the first season of Swing, we will post our thoughts to the second season of Swing as well in the near future. We also started watching a few other shows on Playboy such as Sexcetera which is usually an hour long show on various topics including destination vacations, bondage, kink, etc. We also watch the show Foursome occasionally as well. This show can be pretty funny. In short, it’s made up of 4 ‘attractive’ types, 2 guys and 2 girls. They put them in a mansion for 24 hours, get them liquored up and do games and stuff to break the ice. They usually go out to a club or private party to learn about a topic at hand related to something sexy. Many of the guys come across as douchey and right out of Jersey Shore! We would normally watch this show first to help ease into the mood and there are some real funny moments and there are some sexy people on the show. It seems for every 4 shows maybe 1 show will just hit our mood right. Watching all of these shows, and listening to several podcasts of course made it very easy to get in the mood and make time to get funky and freaky on a weekly basis! You ALWAYS have to make time for each other.

Speaking of getting in the mood, one thing we would like to do in our blog is post a song that helps set the mood for us. We love to be spontaneous with each other, but once you have kids, the reality is you tend to plan out at least a few things related to your sex life. One thing we do is schedule date nights, which means we’re going to have sex! We have small children that are still at younger ages. So we make it point to know that every Friday night we put the kids in bed a few minutes early, have our bedroom clean, and set up to help set the mood (candles, wine, music, toys) and of course we both make an extra effort to wear something sexy/hot and get in bed with a bottle of wine. This is when we try to catch up on shows such as Swing, Foursome, Sexcetera, or even some vanilla shows that just give us that first hour into our date night to help decompress, let the night slowly build and take its course.

However, once play time starts, we really like to have sexy music on in the background. We don’t mean Kenny G (as Ross pointed out in Friends one time), and it took a while to find the right mixture of songs. We didn’t want to listen to artists/bands that we may listen to during the workday, or made us think of something that didn’t help the mood. So we started looking up sexy music on ITunes and YouTube and found various artists and music that we may have not listened to in the past. A lot of it is instrumental, in the electronic/acid jazz/funk genres. So what we will do is try to post a link on each post to hear a song that has been helpful in getting us in the mood. Try out the songs and see if it does anything at playtime for you! Feel free to post comments or email us on your thoughts or share other music that has been sexy to you.

This week’s song is Ay Ay Ay by Dzihan & Kamien

We also want to give a shout out to a cool Lifestyle podcast Swingin’ Around . They are based here in Michigan and we have been listening to them on a regular basis and feel they are onto something cool. We chatted through email a few times and they gave us a few tips on some clubs/events we were didn’t realize that were in our area. Be sure to check them out on ITunes or at Swingin’ Around http://swingin-around.blogspot.com/

We have had a lot of fun with each other and do enjoy our blog and hope you do too. We do have several topics/stories in the works that we will be posting in the near future. Let’s just say that we have had a lot of fun with each other and look forward to sharing our stories soon.

In the meantime we did want to let everyone know we are now on Twitter so be sure to follow us @BeyondRbedroom

Until our next post, remember, take your sex beyond your bedroom, it may lead to good things!

Ho Ho Ho! Happy Horny Holidays & Sexy New Year!

Have a Swingin’ Holiday Season!

It has been a long time since our last post which talked about our nice Halloween treat with each other. ‘Tis the season for crazy schedules, shopping, holiday parties, and over committing ourselves at times. Things have been busy in our ‘vanilla’ lives for sure. 
As 2012 comes to an end we would like to thank all of you for the nice messages we have been receiving. We started this blog to share our ideas and thoughts about exploring the lifestyle and to learn more about each other and to learn from the lifestyle community as well. We have grown a lot in 2012, including visiting our first Lifestyle club. We feel ourselves growing and changing in a very positive way.  We also would like to give a few shout outs to a few people. Thank you Sabrina from Sabrina Swingsfor the messages and we look forward to seeing you as a guest on here in 2013. We also wanted to say hi to our friends over the border in Canada.
As we mentioned above it’s the season for busy times. However we have also made the time to be very busy in the bedroom! We have found ourselves relaxing on the weekends and enjoying a bottle of wine, and catching up on episodes of SWING on the Playboy channel. We watched our first episode in October. 
 I approached Mrs. Swanilla about the show and explained what it was a few months back. So we got in bed early one night, had our bottle of wine, and put the show on. As we both were a little relaxed from the wine and just unwinding, she puts her arms around me as we are sitting in bed and we are watching the opening credits/preview of what is to ‘cum’. How a new couple is headed to the swing house to explore their fantasies and test their limits with each other and possibly other couples that have been in the lifestyle for some time. We hear the host Anna David say the following during the intro “Ever wonder what your neighbors are doing behind closed doors? Many married couples think about it, some even talk about it and these couples actually do it. We’re talking about swinging.

So as we watch the preview together as the show starts I am a little unsure how Swanilla will respond even though we have been to a swingers club recently and have both talked about having an interest in the lifestyle. Then as the preview is ending after a few steamy scenes I hear Mrs. Swanilla say “Baby, this is soooo hot!!!!!” It not only felt very good hearing that, and she noticed how hard my cock got when she said that! So we proceed to watch the first episode and were very turned on by what we saw and by learning several steps along the way. Hearing the couples in the lifestyle talk to each other and explain a lot to the new couple about communication, boundaries, mutual respect, having rules as a couple, it’s okay to say no, different levels of the lifestyle (voyeurism, girl on girl, same room sex, soft-swap, full-swap), and how it makes you grow as a couple, IF you are ready for it and are mature enough to handle it. We watched and even told each other that we were more turned on watching this than any porno in recent memory. Perhaps it may have been a little more real or familiar to us than porn? Plus we stopped watching most ‘scripted’ porn a long time ago. We prefer the amateur stuff from online that shows real couples having a fun time together.   
The Lovely Anna David
We both agreed that the host Anna David (from season 1) is extremely classy and sexy and just seems like a good match to be the host of the show. Not sure why she wasn’t involved in season 2? Okay, so we both admitted to being slightly turned on by her as well!  
So the last several weeks we have been catching up and have watched all of season 1. There were a lot of great couples and a few drama type moments. It was nice to see that emotions can and do get involved in the lifestyle, however, it seems one of the younger couples may not have been mature enough in their relationship to handle a few things and it seems alcohol may have played a factor in some moments of immaturity. But we feel it comes down to the where you are in your life. There was another couple who had only been together 4-months! But they were honest and open with each other and tried out soft-swapping. They both were very sexy and we have seen a few follow up segments about the lifestyle on other channels and they were on there still having a great time together. 
We have really enjoyed watching the show with our glass of wine while in bed as it really gets us in the mood and leads to some amazing conversations of where we would like to explore in the lifestyle.  There is nothing like seeing some passionate scenes play out that are similar or in some cases identical to what has been on our minds, and then turning on some sensual music and getting under the covers and just start touching and kissing passionately! The first few times we both could see it in each other’s eyes that we wanted to talk about the show and thoughts that may be on our minds. Thoughts about our limits and comfort levels but may have been a little nervous in how the other might react even if we have been honest with each other for well over a decade. However, we have learned that by being honest with each other we have had even more amazing sex! It is such a turn on for your partner to ask you to tell them what is on your mind as you start playing and that they want you to be completely honest, and then by telling them you see how turned on it makes them and hearing them moan even louder in excitement! 
We have had several discussions of where we would like to explore and where we would like to be involved in the lifestyle. We know that a full-swap is not for us, but we both enjoy watching others, and being watched. Mrs. Swanilla has shared that she is very bi-curious and would like to be with another woman. She feels that if she is with another woman and I am left out, that this may be some form of cheating or that she would ‘owe me one’. We have talked about this on a few occasions and I have explained that from a guys perspective that just being able to watch your woman enjoy something like that is a major turn on, and that we will be together later anyway. We also heard Michael & Holli from the show SWING say the following: “Cheating is based on lies; the lifestyle is based on truth and communication”. When we both heard that, we looked at each other and smiled and it just seemed to click and it makes so much sense.
We also have thought of same room sex, where we play together in front of another couple on the same bed. Or possibly some combination of the guys watching the ladies have fun and when/if we are asked to join we would join in with our significant other and just watch and listen to each other in the same bed, hot tub, couch or wherever we may be. We aren’t exactly sure what 2013 has in store for us, but the last two years we have had some of the most amazing sex we have ever had together. We seem to be turning it up a notch each year and we are enjoying every minute of it!
Come and unwrap your gift!
This will probably be our last post of 2012, as we have a lot of commitments through January. However, we wish everyone a great holiday season, be sure to have fun with candy canes (oh, how they can be dipped into some hot places) and fun under the tree! Just don’t let Santa catch you!
We will be sure to post what naughty things we do over our holiday break and if Mrs.Swanilla wants me to open my gift under the Christmas tree!

Happy Halloween = A Nice Treat!

Oct 31, 2012 – Halloween is here.

As you know from our previous posts and our blog we are busy parents and we have a lot going on. This Halloween would be a busier one as well. We have made the mistake of not getting out of work early enough in years past and had that rushing around feeling, we both hate that. We both left work early this year to get things in order before the kids came home from school and our house was full of neighborhood kids and their parents having a few adult beverages before we all headed out to walk the neighborhood in the cold weather.

We both found ourselves alone in the house with no kids, no neighbors and no kids running around. We just smiled as we looked at each other. As we ran upstairs we decided to get under the covers to warm up, and turned on some cable porn. We found one that looked promising, a few things happening on the TV that sparked an interest and then, the quality acting kicked in! Nothing like bad acting in what was an erotic movie that made us both laugh! We are both so done with cable porn, but it is fun to laugh at!

I have a large meat lovers delivery here

The wife decided she wanted her own treat as it was Halloween. I wasn’t sure what she had in mind until she pulled out her favorite toy. She was really enjoying herself and had me take over with holding it in the right spot. As she moaned louder and louder she had me get up on my knees as she was laying on her back so she could suck me while she warmed herself up before we fucked! After a few minutes of getting a wonderful blowjob from the wife I could tell it was starting to feel way too good! I realized that the more she was clinching to her toy and watching her body move as she was ready to cum, her mouth felt even better! Before I knew it she had made herself cum three times with her toy going in and out of her while she was sucking me faster and harder. She just gave me that look with her sexy eyes with my cock in her mouth. No words exchanged, as this is one of the few times where as a guy, I can be a mind reader! 🙂

I knew she wasn’t stopping as she wanted to taste me and was going to make me cum any second. Within another minute her mouth was filling up with my hot cum and she couldn’t get enough. Even when I thought I was done, she kept sucking my cock so she would get every last drop!

Once we finished I just looked at her and said wow! “How’s that for a treat on Halloween baby?” She smiled and just kept sucking and sucking until there was nothing left!
We fell onto the bed, cuddled, laughed, and smiled about how hot that was and how bad that movie was! Definitely a great time to hold us over until date night a couple days later and a great way to help relax for that cold night of walking around with neighbors, a wagon full of mommy juice, beer and drinks for the dad. Little did I realize that is how our parents got through it 30+ years ago too! I always thought my parents hot cider smelled funny. Now I know it was filled with rum!

Perhaps better cable porn?

Our First Time at a Lifestyle/Swingers Club! Full Review

Hello! So sorry it took so long to leave our review of our first time at swingers club!  We were planning to post our review sooner of our night, but just didn’t have time with all the touching & playing, and replaying that night in our heads the last several weeks!


Our first time to a swingers club was very sexy, exciting, and passionate! Because it was so exciting and in reality a big step in exploring our comfort levels, we have a more in depth and detailed blog post this time. We feel if there are other couples that have thought about doing this or have done it, then its fun to share this with them. There are several podcasts and blogs that have been very helpful to us the last couple years, so we felt the need to share our experience with others.

We took our time getting ready for the night, and both felt very excited, nervous and sexy as we got ready. It was sexier knowing the wife was going commando in a very short black dress that night! We arrived at the club around 10pm so we could have a tour before anything got started. When we walked through the doors there was a very nice host couple that made us felt very much at ease and relaxed. After a few introductions from the host couple, he proceeded to give us a tour of the club.  You have your bar area, dance area and some VIP/Bottle Service areas. After the general tour, he showed us the play-area which was towards the back of the club, and there is a separate ‘check-in’ with a lovely girl who assists you in letting you know what areas are available, getting a locker, etc.  This club not only has a large open play area, but also several private rooms with mirrors on the ceiling and some have windows so you can watch the action. More on that later!
The host explained the rules and a little history on the club. We felt very safe when he told us that there were close to 10,000 members at their club, and in 10 years they have never had a fight. He explained this has to do with mutual respect, understanding and privacy. This made us feel a lot better and asked us to be a little quiet in the hallway as a few doors were already closed and in use! He showed us the open area and what the rules are, the locker rooms, towels, and how everything is clean and keeping it clean is the goal. We felt so much better after seeing the open area (no one was playing just yet). He explained regardless of our comfort level in the lifestyle that we are welcome to watch, play, be watched, play with others, whatever our comfort level was.There was a large white leather couch next to the large open bed areas.  We loved how he described the couch as being like Switzerland – neutral ground and doesn’t get involved! Any questions we may have had went away, as he answered everything on our mind before we had a chance to ask. We’re sure that happens a lot with newbie’s!
View of the bar/dance area
So we go to the bar to get a drink and just took in the vibe. We noticed several nice looking couples around and we joked to ourselves “Do you think the regulars can tell we are newbie’s?”
We enjoyed ourselves at the bar for a bit and just somewhat confirmed a few things with each other of our own personal rules and a few what-if’s so neither of us was caught off guard if a situation presented itself that evening. We went in with no expectations except to have a great time with each other. But she knows that my biggest turn-on is to see her with another woman, and I know that she is curious from time to time. We’ll get more into fantasies in a future blog post.
After a few drinks we decided to head to the dance floor, as it seemed it went from 2 couples dancing one minute to a near packed floor in no time. We headed over to the floor and just danced and enjoyed each other for several songs. We just kept kissing, smiling, touching, laughing and noticed a few different hot women that got up on the dance poles. We enjoyed the views and noticed a few couples had some lite touching/flirting amongst each other while dancing. It felt nice to take it all in and be around other couples that were there for similar reasons and just being very open-minded. What was really hot was there was a very attractive lady who kept smiling at the wife. She didn’t have the courage yet to dance with her, but there was some mutual flirting from the distance happening. After talking about it, and hearing the wife say “that girl is totally checking me out, should I go dance with her?” I of course encouraged her. She decided to grab one more drink before she approached her. In that time she somewhat disappeared.
So as the night went on we started noticing a couple here and there head towards the back play area. We decided to do a shot before we went in but by no means were wasted. As were dancing one more dance on the way to the play area, we noticed her ‘friend’ headed to the back. Granted we are newbie’s, but we were guessing etiquette would say not to approach someone while in line to get to the play area or in the hallway.
We checked in with the lovely girl at the lounge area. We agreed earlier in the night that we would check out open area and take it all in, and if it wasn’t for us, we would get a private room. Well, the private rooms were all taken and the open area was packed! So we told her to keep us in mind for a private room but we would change out of our clothes and go to the open area. We go into the locker room and we both strip down and it felt great to shed our clothing! We each put our towels around each other and headed towards the back play area.
We walked down the hall and just got very turned on seeing couples together in the private rooms, hearing them having a great time. We noticed several threesomes, foursomes and one on one action in the rooms. It felt great to take it all in!
The Hallway to the private rooms & open area in the distance
We got to the open area and walked around for a few minutes. Just took all the sights in and we both got very turned on! To our surprise the girl she had her eye on was in the middle of playing on one of the beds! What was funny and hot is she looked at the wife with a very sexy look while in the middle of playing with another couple and almost had that “you guys took too long to flirt with me” look. We didn’t mind watching her for a bit! It was nice and she seemed to know what she was doing!
So we stand near the couch (Switzerland) as there is another couple going at it on one side of the couch. We weren’t sure if playing on the couch was allowed, but once we saw another couple playing we figured why not? Within a few minutes they were done. So we decided to sit on the couch and just take in the views, the sounds and everything while waiting for an open area in the large play area in front of us.
The view from the couch!
 We started kissing and touching each other and couldn’t believe how hot it was to see what we were seeing, and hear what we were hearing. There had to be a couple dozen people all in the area just playing. We have had a fantasy for a long time to watch couples and be watched and it was essentially coming true. We started getting more and more into it, and before we even realized it, we found ourselves playing on the couch as there was no room in the beds or private rooms. We kept kissing, fingering, and touching while we were watching others in front of us. Before long she started riding me while I was sitting on the couch. I was sitting normal on the couch and she turned around and gave me a reverse cowgirl while facing several couples in front of us, to the side of us, and it felt great! We adjusted ourselves once we were alone on the couch (see that story below) and she proceeded to really fuck me hard. Hard enough that I knew I was going to cum inside of her soon, and I knew that is what she wanted. She fucked me harder and harder as I licked her tits. It felt so good to fucking in front of others knowing we were making them hot as well. She kept going faster the more I licked her until I just lost control and came inside her. We both enjoyed ourselves very much and lasted longer than we thought we would. It was very hot to look over and see other couples enjoying the show we were giving them. So Switzerland did get involved for once!
To play or not to play?
There were a couple funky things that happened but are in no way a reflection of the club. When we started playing with each other on the couch, there was another couple next to us that had just sat down a couple minutes after us. The way we were sitting, I personally couldn’t make out who they were or anything, as the wife’s hair was in my face. But at one point, while we were playing the guy started touching and rubbing my wife’s back while he was sitting with his girlfriend/wife. She looked over and realized it wasn’t my arm. She didn’t tell me while this was happening. He did it again, and she pushed his arm away. A minute later, this guy and his girl start arguing somewhat, and we think she didn’t want to be there. She was complaining about something and was starting to be a buzz kill. We both thought about how important communication is BEFORE heading to the club, let alone the play area. Thankfully a minute later they left. She told me to take over the couch. So now that I knew something was making us somewhat uncomfortable, we just laid back and took the whole couch so this couple wouldn’t come back. It was fine after that.
What was kind of hot is afterwards we talked about the guy touching her. I explained I had no idea and that anyone should ALWAYS ask first. She was actually okay with it, saying “I mean if you are in the middle of playing, and want to touch I think I may be okay with that, just not this guy as he wasn’t attractive at all to me”. So we agreed that no one should touch without asking, but at the same time, it possibly brought us to a new conversation. When she told me her view that she could see why someone would want to touch in a nice, respectful way in the middle of playing, (perhaps by getting caught up in the moment) it made me very hard and turned on that she told me this. She knows I have fantasies of certain things and sometimes she teases me. I have told her that I have thought of her sucking another cock while I was going down on her. So once in awhile I will be going down on her and notice she is sucking on her favorite vibrator. She knows this teases me and turns me on and makes my mind wonder!
We have talked several times and know that we enjoyed watching/being watched, as it was a major turn on! We would love to do it again, but are unsure if a club is the only way to go, or perhaps other possibilities? I think it would be fun to experience meeting other open minded couples at a bar, house party or hotel and of course other swinger/lifestyle clubs. In a perfect world it would be great to have other open-minded/non-vanillafriends that we see at a club or event and maybe explore our comfort levels with once in awhile. Possibly her playing with another girl. She knows that I would be okay if there was another couple that had sex next to us on a bed or couch either at club or maybe a hotel someday. But keeping our vanilla world separate from our non-vanilla world is important of course. It’s too early to say but let’s just say we have replayed the night in our minds and out loud while having fun in bed a several times already!
Happy Endings?
One last thing that was somewhat comical that night. While she was on top of me on the couch, her hair was in my face and I couldn’t see much at one point. However, since we started playing on the couch we somewhat lost track of what else was around us besides other couples. There was a water jug in the corner for guests to grab a sip. The wife was facing towards the water jug while she was fucking me with her on top.
We heard a couple people getting drinks of water and I remember hearing them getting so much water and thinking “well, they just got done and probably are really thirsty”. My wife proceeds to tell me that she could see everything and there was a guy standing there practically posing while drinking water and the guy’s dong was nearly in her face as the way he was standing there and not in a good way! The only thing I could hear was the water jug sounding like some was filling a gallon of water. She said he burped out loud too and she was like “really, how is that HOT!?!?! Move on!” She didn’t tell me this until afterwards and we ended up laughing about it. We both have a pretty good sense of humor so it was all good, even if awkward for a moment. Thankfully this didn’t ruin her big moment as it happened shortly thereafter!
We can’t wait to return to the club sometime in the near future. But we have a lot of commitments in our vanillalives through the end of the year. Hopefully in the winter we can make our way back to the club or explore other options or curiosities that may come up.
If any of you are on the fence about going or unsure of what to expect. Just do it! As long as you are open-minded and have good communication as a couple, your only regret will be you didn’t go sooner!
Have any of you been to a swingers/lifestyle club or party? If so, please feel free to share your comments, stories or advice.

We’re headed to a sex club!

One of our fantasies for a long time has been to attend a lifestyle club or resort. Not to swing, but to enjoy the views, watch others have fun, and have fun in front of others as well. But we have had a lot of questions on expectations from others, rules, etc. There is a resort in Cancun – ‘Desire‘ that we have heard about for a long time, and have listened to several podcasts on Bath Talk Weekly with Kidder & Jade about it. There are a few others around the country and Caribbean, and we have talked about going to one someday. We have had a few concerns about the vibe and atmosphere at some of the places but have heard a lot more positive feedback then negative. However, we agreed that in order to go that far away from home, we should dip our toes in the water closer to home first to find out our comfort levels.

So we are headed to a lifestyle club and are very excited! We have been reading a lot of great reviews and are excited for our first visit. The club we are going to is a dance club that is open to couples and single females and the occasional single male is allowed in on certain nights. In the back there is another area that has an on-premise play area. We are excited because there are both private rooms and an open area where couples are on several beds just having a really good time. We have talked to so many people that have attended and said it was just a great experience and that it really is very sensual and a lot of fun.The thought of getting all dressed up and having a fun time together is really hot. It makes us hotter thinking about what may happen later in the night. Stripping down and having fun together in front of others.

We have enjoyed going to strip clubs a handful times together as well. Once was with a bunch of friends and it was more for a laugh and a few drinks. We both got a lap dance together, and it was fun. But because we had friends there that were more on the vanilla side, we felt like we couldn’t enjoy it the way we wanted to. Another time we found ourselves in another city on vacation and decided to go to a club that was a little more upscale and just the two of us. This was definitely a fun time! We each had some drinks and just enjoyed the views of the dancers and bought each other a couple dances. It was very hot watching each other have a dance. To make it even hotter, we each picked out the girls that had to give us a dance. When we got back to our hotel room later in the night, we had some of the hottest sex just thinking about what we just had seen!

We have enjoyed strip clubs but felt we have moved on. They still may be fun once in a while, but we feel we are ready to turn it up a notch. We will post soon about our journey and see what happens with attending the lifestyle club. But just the thought of having fun with each other, while watching others and hearing and seeing the sounds, slaps, moans and screams really gets us both very hot!

Can’t wait to share our experiences with all of you!

“Are you ready dear?”