One of the sexiest things we enjoy is having a glass of wine in bed, or in front of our fireplace and listening to one of the many sexy podcasts we enjoy, reading up on the possibilities of Desire or catching up on an episode of Swing on Playboy TV. All lead to great and sexy conversations. Sometimes it’s very hot to have these conversations with sexy porn on in the background (volume turned off) and having sensual music playing. It is very hot to be talking and both notice the TV just at the right time, and we both stop talking and just watch for a few minutes. We LOVE to watch, and be watched! And are looking forward to watching a lot of sexy couples at Desire!
|Keep reading for a true sensual story…..|
Recently, we were discussing the possibilities of our first trip to Desire. No expectations, just open and honest communication, without fear of anything, just honesty. Which lead to open and honest Desires being shared while having those sexy pillow talk moments as the mood strikes. While discussing several ideas, we both were very turned on and ready to play.
|Not us, but a familiar look|
|On our way to the playroom|
We proceed to the farthest playroom (there are two playrooms all connected by a large window ) which is mainly one large bed to accommodate at least 12-15 people. We took in the vibe there and stayed for a few minutes. We weren’t feeling the sexiness as much as the other room so we went back to the main playroom. At this point we had been walking around with towels around us for about 5 minutes but it felt longer as we took in the atmosphere and tried to find an open spot on a bed or couch. Mrs. Swanilla saw a sexy couple signal to us that they had room on the couch for us to join them. We walked over and I whispered if they had room for one more (just to be sure) he said “of course”. Mrs. Swanilla sat me down on the couch and slowly dropped to her knees. As I started to
look around to see all of the sexy things happening around us, Mrs. Swanilla started to kiss me and slowly stroke me as this hot couple next to us were in the middle of playing. Before I knew it Mrs. Swanilla was sucking my cock in a very sensual way. She always gives great blowjobs but this was different. I think all of the sexiness around us just made her perform differently. She knew she was being watched by others and did she ever give them a very nice show to look at! While all of this was happening the couple next to us was really having fun. There was no talking or a connection really between us or we didn’t see them on the dance floor that we could remember, so we laid down and started to fuck really hard. We both were watching all of these sexy people around us and wanted them to watch us and us watch them. One thing we noticed was as the playroom was filling up with more people, the staff was stretched. As there is someone in the locker room to give you your private locker and also someone up front to guide you to the private rooms or answer any questions you have. Once you enter this area, its pretty much understood that you have to be naked in the playroom. If you go to a private room you can change in there. The private room is separate from playroom. As we were playing on the couch, I noticed a few guys walking into the playroom fully dressed in their costumes. After about a minute or two, the girl from the locker room, stopped them, and said they had to go change or back to the dance floor. This made us feel better. One of the many things we like about the playroom is that it’s a level playing field. Everyone is naked or has some lingerie on. Having others fully dressed just walking around starring isn’t sexy. Having others walk around while they are naked and want to watch for a minute, very sexy!
After a few minutes of being sucked Mrs. Swanilla sat down on the couch next to the couple and asked me to lick her. Thinking of some of the new oral techniques that Dr. Jess was sharing with everyone earlier in the day, I was happy to do so! As I was busy licking we heard the girl next to us screaming as she was cumming. Then we heard her say “I am squirting I am squirting” it was very hot to be right next to them as this was happening. The guy made a joke afterwards that he had worked so hard in the last hour that he was glad she came. We all had a little laugh and giggle. They excused themselves after and we had the couch to ourselves.
After a few minutes we switched positions and I sat on the couch and Mrs. Swanilla started to ride me reverse cowgirl. Just as we started to find our groove, another couple sat next to us. To say it nicely they weren’t the most attractive. But that wasn’t what bothered us. We know we come in all
shapes and sizes, but the lady got on top of him and they started to argue with each other in a different language. Based on their tone, it didn’t sound like a sexy conversation. So it started to be a mood killer, but we were close and within another couple minutes we both came and it was very hot to be in front of everyone while we had a very hot moment. We made our way back to the locker room and changed back into our costumes. We went back to the dance floor, danced for a few more songs and grabbed one last drink and headed for the hotel.
After a long summer of mainly vanilla activities we are excited that we are able to get away soon for a sexy weekend this October! We are headed back to The X-Club for their annual Sexy Halloween Party on Saturday Oct 24th. After attending the Halloween party last year we couldn’t resist going again this year. Our biggest challenge right now is trying to decide on what sexy costumes to wear. One thing we learned last year, is that less definitely is more! It will be exciting to be around such sexy people again in such an open minded environment. Between all the sexy costumes, dancing and flirting, not to mention the hot scenery and sounds in the back play areas, we are ready for a nice naughty weekend!
Would you ever consider appearing on a TV show about the Lifestyle?
|Canceled after only 2 episodes|
Based on some of the twitter comments and comments on various web pages, there are a lot of people that bring religion and god into the bedroom. They had an overly religious couple and of course parents who disapproved and said ‘you were raised better than that with God in your life‘. Granted both shows were either based in cities in the bible belt or in more conservative areas. Curious as to why the show lasted an entire season on the Discovery Health Channel and not even to the third episode on A&E?
|Fuck like your being watched!|
Happy New Year! Hopefully you had a great holiday season and fun new years!
We wanted to post a quick question/topic for everyone and throw it out there to perhaps get some feedback or a discussion going. This will be part of another topic that we will touch on soon and did post a link related to an article on sexual fantasies.Would love to hear back from you guys!
Do fantasies have to come true? If not all of them how do you decide which ones are okay to bring to life & which ones are better left in your mind (both as a couple or individual)? How do you decide which ones are okay to bring up to your partner? Are there any fantasies that took longer to bring up to your partner than others? Have any fantasies back-fired while bringing them up or while acting them out? How many of your fantasies have come true vs. not?
Drop us a line via email or on twitter and let us know your thoughts.
“Studies show couples who regularly indulge [in sexual fantasy] tend to have a solid, happy and pleasurable relationship.”
Getting Your Fantasy Started
The next hurdle would be to tell your spouse that you want to share fantasies during sex. Here are 10 simple steps to get you started:
1. Start small, go slow. Successfully integrating new ideas into your regular love making routine need to be brought in gently.
2.Think of a simple, neutral (i.e. not too exotic) fantasy. Like the FedEx guy delivering a “package” or you meet a stranger in a bar.
3. Practice saying the fantasy out loud. Yes, this may seem tedious yet if you’re not used to talking dirty or sharing your fantasies, it’s best to have a few practice runs; that way you don’t feel tongue tied when it comes time to share.
4. Test the waters. During your next sexual encounter, say to your spouse, “Want to hear my naughty fantasy?”
5. Wait to get their permission. If they seize up and get upset, don’t take it personally. Often introducing something new makes people feel they are sexually inadequate and will put them on the defensive.
6. Respect their reaction. If they don’t want to hear then you need to pull back and move on.
7. Share your fantasy. If you get their permission, tell them your fantasy.
8. Roll with the fantasy. Expect your sex to become incredibly hot.
9. When the endorphins have settled, do a follow-up. After the sex, ask how they liked it and would like to do it again.
10. Don’t pressure them. If your spouse isn’t comfortable sharing their fantasy, don’t pressure them. Think of this as your sex specialty; what you give to the sexual experience.
Remember, the first few times you try adding fantasy to your lovemaking, there’s bound to be flub ups. Give it some time before it feels comfortable. After a while expect fantasy-inspired sex to be times to look forward to.
If you are among the very brave, take the fantasy from between the sheets and act it out. I find Halloween is the perfect time to “go public” with a fantasy—as everyone is expecting you to dress up and act differently anyway.
Couples report that Halloween has turned into their favorite holiday because they can completely let loose; that the build-up of adventurous energy leads to amazing sex.
So is it realistic to bring fantasy into your bedroom? There’s only one way for you to find out.
Some Treats & a few Tricks……
Seeing how it is almost Christmas, we figured it was good to post about our first Halloween party at a Lifestyle club. We actually had this post ready to go in draft mode, but life took over before we could add a few pics & edit it before we sent it out.
As we reviewed our calendar and talked about what it may be like we started getting very excited. We knew we wanted to attend the same club that we have before – The X Club in Toronto for a few different reasons, mainly being familiar with the place and being comfortable. Knowing that Halloween is the biggest party in the lifestyle community we were excited and a little nervous. First was to decide what we were going to dress as. We looked at some very hot outfits online and decided to go as a Sexy Flight attendant & Captain! I was Captain Hugh Jorgan per my name tag!
|Not Mrs. Swanilla but her costume!|
We arrived at our hotel and noticed a few other couples arriving about the same time. Many just had that ‘look’ that they were attending the Halloween party! As we were checking in, the hotel staff was helping another couple and they said out loud “Oh you’re here for the Halloween party, have fun tonight!” Once we settled in and relaxed for a bit we had our pre-game conversation about what the evening could bring. Again, never any expectations with each other but it’s always nice to have that time to bring up the what if’s, to make sure we are both on the same page for the evening. We knew we were in for a treat when we left our hotel room and headed for the lobby to grab limo service to the club. At first Mrs. Swanilla thought she may be a little revealing in her sexy flight attendant costume. Once we were in the lobby and saw fellow club goers in their sexy costumes, that all went away! There were plenty of others that were revealing a lot more, that had a lot of confidence and playfulness. As we waited for about 15 minutes with others, we chatted with a few other couples. There were probably 15-20+ couples waiting in the lobby. Everyone was so nice and approachable. It just seemed very normal to be waiting with others that were all like minded people, regardless of their comfort level that were just dressed sexier than normal. In reality there wasn’t a lot of lifestyle talk while waiting. Some dirty jokes, sexual/dirty comments among friends, along with drinks flowing and laughing. Honestly, we felt very comfortable.
|Not Mr. Swanilla|
|Michael & Holli|
As we made away around the club it was just a sea of sexy people! From the staff to the guests just a lot of sexy costumes and people. We noticed a hot woman probably in her late 20’s dressed as a unicorn. Once we realized what she was dressed as we looked at each other and were like “niiice!!!” There were a few costumes that made us scratch our heads a little. Saw a few guys dressed with lots of blood and a monster theme. Nothing sexy or attractive about it all and we were unsure on the thought behind that. We noticed a few couples that looked scared and very nervous to be there. If anyone is ever unsure if they should attend a lifestyle club we would recommend Halloween not being your first time. It just seems to be a lot to take in for a first timer.
After a little bit as we were on the dance floor having a great time, Mrs. Swanilla looked at me and said “would you like to go to the back?” I was somewhat surprised as it was earlier than I thought we would. We headed to the back and I was up for the open play area so we could be seen and watch several others or a private room. I was down for either and told Mrs. Swanilla to choose what she was comfortable with at the time.
Tricks – not Treats!
We danced and got so hot for each other that about an hour or so later, the mood struck again and I asked Mrs. Swanilla if she was interested in heading to the back again? So we headed to the back and this time got a private room without a window. We both loved being in private at this point and it was nice to reconnect after a less than hot experience just a little earlier. So as we started playing, we could hear everyone in rooms next to ours as well as the open play area next to us. Having mirrors all around us was really hot as well! We fucked and we fucked hard! Mrs. Swanilla looked great with a little of her costume still on while being 99% naked! It was such a different experience compared to earlier in the night and it also showed what the right environment and situation can play a role in a fun time! Even with each other, as you don’t always have to play with others or even make your way to the open area. It is okay to just have a fun and hot night with each other and let others hear you screaming and moaning as you have multiple orgasms!
We did notice that as the night progressed we noticed a couple that were pursuing another couple on the dance floor. Sometimes if you don’t find that connection or just aren’t looking for anyone else that night, it is fun to just watch how others interact. From both a sexual and lifestyle perspective – almost a way to take some mental notes for your own use someday. In a vanilla club it is so prevalent and common to be hit on as everyone there is single for the most part. If someone hits on a woman that is taken, things could usually lead to guys arguing or turning into alpha males. However, we have always thought it is not only a compliment to be hit on, but the fact that others find us attractive, sexy or even fuckable is also a turn on for us. If a guy (or lady) tells Mrs. Swanilla that she looks sexy and compliments her, I don’t see that as a threat. It’s all how you present the compliment though. In a sexy and classy way. I would be more skeptical if we were at a vanilla dance club and a guy hit on her. Just something about a lifestyle club where there are more manners, a little more class. Maybe many lifestyle friendly couples have been listening to a lot of lifestyle podcasts or reading blogs have picked up on how to behave?!?!
As we noticed this couple flirting with another couple, they were grinding/dancing and noticed the two girls were kissing, then the couples were kissing their different partners. So it was hot to see things progress with them. However, out of nowhere three people (two girls and a guy) more or less pushed their way into the 4-some/flirting/kissing on the dance floor, to where the two new girls were kissing one of the original girls, and the other couple were whispering and had a look on their face like “what just happened”. So we aren’t sure if they cock-blocked them, or it was all welcoming and lead to perhaps a more-some in the back. But from our perspective it looked like a mood kill.
|Our ‘weapons’ for a fun weekend!|
Funny story, when we approached the border at Sarnia Ontario/Pt. Huron Michigan, we handed the immigration officer our passports and answered a few questions, including do you have any weapons? Thinking of the toys in our bag from our dirty minds we just said no.
One of the last questions was the border patrol officer saying “You mean to tell me you guys drove all the way to Toronto for one night?” After we left Mrs. Swanilla said next time we should be honest and tell them when they ask “We went to a Swingers Lifestyle club and since Michigan doesn’t have any upscale and classy clubs or allow any that are Lifestyle friendly we make trips regularly to Toronto!”
Then watch the look on their face. I mean we are doing nothing illegal, not bothering anyone and ethically and morally we enjoy ourselves so if the agent had a problem with it, that’s on them! Who knows maybe they will go home to their spouse that day and say “honey I have an idea“.
Have any good stories to share about your first time at a lifestyle Halloween party? Please feel free to drop us an email or leave a comment below!
As always, we like to post sexy songs that we enjoy and have gotten us in the mood! This is a great song to have playing while things are heating up!!! Very sensual!