Our review of The Magic Wand – Hint – it made her squirt!!!


A few months ago we were watching the latest season of Swing from Playboy. This show is so great! Plus Jessica O’Reilly is very easy on the eyes! Both sexy & classy! We noticed the last few seasons that the women were always using this toy that looked something old school, as it had the electric cord. It didn’t have the typical hot pink, sleek, modern look like so many toys do. So after an episode Mrs. Swanilla mentioned that she really wanted to try one and we should look into getting one. After a few days of reading reviews and learning more about it, we ordered one.

By the weekend it had arrived. I being the sly guy I am, didn’t tell her. I had it ready in our room and hidden behind our pillows. After we enjoyed a glass of wine while watching another episode of Swing she made a comment about the toy again. After we started to play around, I grabbed and it asked her if she was up for the challenge!?!

She laid on back and tried it out as I enjoyed watching. She giggled and laughed as she couldn’t believe how it felt! She then turned it on full speed as she thought the speed she had it on was full speed. After a couple minutes of exploring herself and getting her groove with her new toy, she lost control and had a very intense orgasm! And then another! I was there just enjoying what I was seeing, as we have a number of toys and I had never seen her react to any of them like she did to the magic wand! She is a woman who loves her toys for sure! But this took it to a whole new level.

When she thought she was done, I asked her to get on her knees at the edge of the bed. As I was standing up, and she was on her knees, she put her arms around me as we kissed passionately! I slowly grabbed the toy and put it on her clit, and turned it on again. She was feeling very good, and she was starting to get the body movements that you know an orgasm is coming (or cumming)! Ha!

Except this time it wasn’t just an orgasm, as she started to cum, the look on her face changed and she said I am squirting! We looked down and she was speechless (in a good way) as she soaked the sheets! We both were so fascinated and impressed. This wasn’t the first time Mrs. Swanilla has squirted, but it had been a long time and never of this magnitude. After a minute of admiring the power of the magic wand Mrs. Swanilla said “why did we wait this long to buy this thing?!?!” I mentioned “We have to tweet this out!”

Mrs. Swanilla loves her magic wand! 

We had some fun responses from a few people. Matt & Bianca from the Everybody Swing podcast said “Hitachis are amazing! If you really want to get your sheets wet, next you have to try a Sybian!”

So of course we knew what a Sybian was from seeing it on Swing and in some porno we have seen. It’s a bit out of our price range right now, but we of course are willing to take a basic model from the company to do a product review on it! That would be fun for sure! We can only imagine what would happen if we get to play with one. 

We have a demonstration below on how they work for your viewing pleasure! 

Sybian Machine in action

Lifestyle Apps – Which ones would you recommend?

In learning more about the Lifestyle, there are a ton of podcasts and blogs that are very helpful. We have several linked here on our blog that we would recommend you check out as they are very fun and educational. Of course there are sexy shows such as Swing that really have been both exciting and educational to watch.
Naturally there are a lot of people in the Lifestyle on twitter, Instagram and there are also several webpages and apps that are very helpful in your journey. 
What are some of the best apps for the Lifestyle? Such as games for ice breakers, parties, calendars, club finders, etc. When looking in the App store, there seems to be slim pickings, so please share your thoughts of Lifestyle apps or Sexy apps in general.

New Experiences & More…..

We are back after a long hiatus on the blogosphere!  Things have been very busy in our vanilla life with the usual suspects taking up a lot of our time, life events, vacations, and new ventures that have eaten into a lot of our spare time.
We had a brutal winter here in Michigan and in many areas of the country. You would think being stuck inside would provide ample time to post updates to the blog and more, but it was actually quite the opposite. It was a race to get home in the snow covered roads, stay warm by getting the fire going in the fireplace and drinking a lot of wine. Which in turned led to many sexy nights at home!
The commutes in the bad weather haven’t been that bad. What was really funny is I would notice other drivers stressed out that it would take an hour to go 20 miles due to snow and ice, which normally would make me crazy too! This winter, I tried a different approach. I listened to several sexy podcasts while driving and it made the commute go so much better. How can you get stressed out when you are listening to an episode of Lifestyle out Loud or SwapFu while driving? I am positive a few drivers were wondering why I had such a huge smile on my face while we were going 4 mph a few times. Little did they know what makes a long commute so much more enjoyable!
We went to a club (again)
We were able to sneak away and were able to make it back to Toronto for a return trip to the X-Club. This was a very different experience then our first time there.  We had received a message from another couple earlier in the day and that they would be there too. We chatted briefly via email and explained what our rules were, and they sent us what their rules were.
In reading over the email about their rules/preferences, Mrs. Swanilla said “is that an email to us or one we sent out? As it is exactly what our rules are too!” We weren’t looking to full swap, but have a nice sensual experience of having fun together on the same bed/play area, with some girl/girl play and same room sex. In looking at online profiles and possibly events or parties, we wondered if you meet a couple and chat online or meet in person, and they are more experienced then you, and their comfort level is up for a full swap,  but ours is not, would they dial it back to our comfort level in playing and being with newbies? This is one of the questions that we have discussed a lot together and would love any feedback on this.
As we left and headed towards Toronto, we chatted and listened to some podcasts on the way there (the always great Swingin Around & SwapFu) and there was both excitement and some nervousness between us. After the 4+ hour road trip we arrived at our hotel and just relaxed for a bit. As we started to get ready for the evening we talked about the what-if’s of the evening to make sure we were both on the same page. We agreed that there weren’t any expectations since we were meeting a couple for the first time. Our plan was to go and just have fun, and go back to the open play area and have fun with each other again, as watching and being watched is very hot for us. We enjoy the sights and sounds of being in an open play area!
As we finished getting ready, Mrs. Swanilla mentioned that she was nervous since we were meeting people for the first time. If we meet someone at the club as the night progresses that is one thing, but this was “let’s meet for a drink at the club” and was our first time in doing so. We definitely both had our first time nerves, anxiety, stress and more that so many other swingers have mentioned on blogs, podcasts and shows.  But I assured her we would be fine and just to relax as there were no expectations. We balance each other out quite nicely in all aspects of life, and she knew I had her back.  
As we left our hotel room, we had what we call the Sexy Swanilla Walk! You know the walk, where you head to the elevator, down the hallways, into the lobby and grab a taxi, wondering what other guests at the hotel lobby/lounge are thinking when you walk by dressed very sexy or if you may run into another couple dressed for the evening that may be headed to the same club! This was not an on premise hotel we stayed at so there were vanilla’s around we had to dodge!
As we arrived to the club, we paid our fee and grabbed a couple drinks. What was really great this time was that we weren’t nervous of being at the club like we were the first time. We were still nervous that we were meeting another couple but we felt very comfortable at the club and very much at ease. It felt very familiar and comfortable.
We grabbed a couple drinks and found a place to sit for a few minutes. After a song or two the couple we chatted with online approached us and introduced themselves. Once we met and started talking, all of our nervousness just went away.

It’s funny how you think of meeting people and once you do, you realize that they are a ‘normal’ couple that is out to have a good time as well. They filled us in on a few different clubs they had been at in the area and gave us their reviews and told us a few other times they had been to this club. This particular club had been renovated a few months prior, mainly the open play area. So the four of us went to check out the newly renovated play areas before it opened to everyone for the evening and it sure has a sexy vibe going on! Looks so much better and even sexier!

They were a nice couple and put us at ease very much. They explained there was no pressure or any expectations for the evening. As they were talking at one point, Mrs. Swanilla pulled me closer to her and whispered “I really like them, they are so nice!”This was nice to hear, because all four us mentioned in chatting that if nothing happens, there is at least another couple to talk with at the club and just take in the energy with. Plus it’s nice to be able to share essentially a naughty secret with others and have club friends or acquaintances. To be honest, we thought they way they handled us being newbie’s was so polite and pressure free that, in some essence, that became a turn on as well.
After enjoying a few drinks and conversation we moved to the dance floor and just had fun. They told us they were headed to the back play area in a private room in a few minutes and we were welcome to join them. But if we didn’t there wouldn’t be any hurt feelings, and again no expectations.
They told us as we were dancing and Mrs. Swanilla turned around after a few minutes and said “we should go back and join them”. As many in the swinging community know, the women tend to lead the pace of the evening, but with anything communication of course is key. I never had any expectations knowing our comfort levels at this point and our conversations we had earlier in the day, but was both excited and surprised at her response.

After getting very excited on the dance floor, just kissing and grinding on each other, we decided to head back. The X-Club has a large play area and several private rooms. We changed and found our way to the room they had after walking through the newly remodeled open play area slowly as possible so we could take in the very sexy sights and sounds.
Now, we won’t go into each and every exact detail of what happened in the private room, but we will say, that they made us feel very comfortable, and relaxed. So comfortable that Mrs. Swanilla had her first girl/girl experience and it was a very hot and satisfying night!

It was very hot to have other couples walk by and watch what was happening through the window and open door in our room and was a real turn on to be essentially be giving them a sexy show!

After we enjoyed our ourselves, we headed back to the bar, enjoyed a cocktail and danced for a little bit more. We started to get tired and decided to head back to the hotel. Once we got back, we were both so turned on that we had reclamation sex, and it was very hot!

The next day, we got up and got ready, headed down to the breakfast area of the hotel before we headed on the road back to Michigan. As we sat there having coffee, we looked around as the place was packed with families and wondered “who here looks like they may have been down the street at the club last night?!?!

We would love to hear some feedback on any of your first experiences! Were they what you thought they would be? Was it better or different than you imagined? Did you put any pressure on yourselves leading up to your first experiences? Please post a comment or send us an email, as we would love to hear your stories too! 

This is a great summary of the lifestyle and how there isn’t a one-size fits all approach

This post’s song is Seafoam by Magnus Buchan, a very sexy and sensual song. Be sure to listen while having a sexy time!

Hello Everyone,

We have NOT given up on our blog. We have had some technical issues with blog posts not going out and trying to resolve a few things behind the scenes.

We have several posts ready to go, but want to ensure everything is working, etc. If anyone has any tips on blogger, settings, email us.

Stay tuned…….

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Happy Sexy Swinging Spring!

Wow! We can’t believe it is spring and our last blog was just prior to the holidays!!!! Where does the time go?

Our vanilla life has been very busy the first several months of 2013 and we just didn’t have a lot of time for extra stuff. Just laid low for the winter but we did catch up on a lot of things in our sexy life including a lot of fun nights in front of the fire place. We completed Season 2 of SWING on Playboy. Since we gave a review of the first season of Swing, we will post our thoughts to the second season of Swing as well in the near future. We also started watching a few other shows on Playboy such as Sexcetera which is usually an hour long show on various topics including destination vacations, bondage, kink, etc. We also watch the show Foursome occasionally as well. This show can be pretty funny. In short, it’s made up of 4 ‘attractive’ types, 2 guys and 2 girls. They put them in a mansion for 24 hours, get them liquored up and do games and stuff to break the ice. They usually go out to a club or private party to learn about a topic at hand related to something sexy. Many of the guys come across as douchey and right out of Jersey Shore! We would normally watch this show first to help ease into the mood and there are some real funny moments and there are some sexy people on the show. It seems for every 4 shows maybe 1 show will just hit our mood right. Watching all of these shows, and listening to several podcasts of course made it very easy to get in the mood and make time to get funky and freaky on a weekly basis! You ALWAYS have to make time for each other.

Speaking of getting in the mood, one thing we would like to do in our blog is post a song that helps set the mood for us. We love to be spontaneous with each other, but once you have kids, the reality is you tend to plan out at least a few things related to your sex life. One thing we do is schedule date nights, which means we’re going to have sex! We have small children that are still at younger ages. So we make it point to know that every Friday night we put the kids in bed a few minutes early, have our bedroom clean, and set up to help set the mood (candles, wine, music, toys) and of course we both make an extra effort to wear something sexy/hot and get in bed with a bottle of wine. This is when we try to catch up on shows such as Swing, Foursome, Sexcetera, or even some vanilla shows that just give us that first hour into our date night to help decompress, let the night slowly build and take its course.

However, once play time starts, we really like to have sexy music on in the background. We don’t mean Kenny G (as Ross pointed out in Friends one time), and it took a while to find the right mixture of songs. We didn’t want to listen to artists/bands that we may listen to during the workday, or made us think of something that didn’t help the mood. So we started looking up sexy music on ITunes and YouTube and found various artists and music that we may have not listened to in the past. A lot of it is instrumental, in the electronic/acid jazz/funk genres. So what we will do is try to post a link on each post to hear a song that has been helpful in getting us in the mood. Try out the songs and see if it does anything at playtime for you! Feel free to post comments or email us on your thoughts or share other music that has been sexy to you.

This week’s song is Ay Ay Ay by Dzihan & Kamien

We also want to give a shout out to a cool Lifestyle podcast Swingin’ Around . They are based here in Michigan and we have been listening to them on a regular basis and feel they are onto something cool. We chatted through email a few times and they gave us a few tips on some clubs/events we were didn’t realize that were in our area. Be sure to check them out on ITunes or at Swingin’ Around http://swingin-around.blogspot.com/

We have had a lot of fun with each other and do enjoy our blog and hope you do too. We do have several topics/stories in the works that we will be posting in the near future. Let’s just say that we have had a lot of fun with each other and look forward to sharing our stories soon.

In the meantime we did want to let everyone know we are now on Twitter so be sure to follow us @BeyondRbedroom

Until our next post, remember, take your sex beyond your bedroom, it may lead to good things!

Ho Ho Ho! Happy Horny Holidays & Sexy New Year!

Have a Swingin’ Holiday Season!

It has been a long time since our last post which talked about our nice Halloween treat with each other. ‘Tis the season for crazy schedules, shopping, holiday parties, and over committing ourselves at times. Things have been busy in our ‘vanilla’ lives for sure. 
As 2012 comes to an end we would like to thank all of you for the nice messages we have been receiving. We started this blog to share our ideas and thoughts about exploring the lifestyle and to learn more about each other and to learn from the lifestyle community as well. We have grown a lot in 2012, including visiting our first Lifestyle club. We feel ourselves growing and changing in a very positive way.  We also would like to give a few shout outs to a few people. Thank you Sabrina from Sabrina Swingsfor the messages and we look forward to seeing you as a guest on here in 2013. We also wanted to say hi to our friends over the border in Canada.
As we mentioned above it’s the season for busy times. However we have also made the time to be very busy in the bedroom! We have found ourselves relaxing on the weekends and enjoying a bottle of wine, and catching up on episodes of SWING on the Playboy channel. We watched our first episode in October. 
 I approached Mrs. Swanilla about the show and explained what it was a few months back. So we got in bed early one night, had our bottle of wine, and put the show on. As we both were a little relaxed from the wine and just unwinding, she puts her arms around me as we are sitting in bed and we are watching the opening credits/preview of what is to ‘cum’. How a new couple is headed to the swing house to explore their fantasies and test their limits with each other and possibly other couples that have been in the lifestyle for some time. We hear the host Anna David say the following during the intro “Ever wonder what your neighbors are doing behind closed doors? Many married couples think about it, some even talk about it and these couples actually do it. We’re talking about swinging.

So as we watch the preview together as the show starts I am a little unsure how Swanilla will respond even though we have been to a swingers club recently and have both talked about having an interest in the lifestyle. Then as the preview is ending after a few steamy scenes I hear Mrs. Swanilla say “Baby, this is soooo hot!!!!!” It not only felt very good hearing that, and she noticed how hard my cock got when she said that! So we proceed to watch the first episode and were very turned on by what we saw and by learning several steps along the way. Hearing the couples in the lifestyle talk to each other and explain a lot to the new couple about communication, boundaries, mutual respect, having rules as a couple, it’s okay to say no, different levels of the lifestyle (voyeurism, girl on girl, same room sex, soft-swap, full-swap), and how it makes you grow as a couple, IF you are ready for it and are mature enough to handle it. We watched and even told each other that we were more turned on watching this than any porno in recent memory. Perhaps it may have been a little more real or familiar to us than porn? Plus we stopped watching most ‘scripted’ porn a long time ago. We prefer the amateur stuff from online that shows real couples having a fun time together.   
The Lovely Anna David
We both agreed that the host Anna David (from season 1) is extremely classy and sexy and just seems like a good match to be the host of the show. Not sure why she wasn’t involved in season 2? Okay, so we both admitted to being slightly turned on by her as well!  
So the last several weeks we have been catching up and have watched all of season 1. There were a lot of great couples and a few drama type moments. It was nice to see that emotions can and do get involved in the lifestyle, however, it seems one of the younger couples may not have been mature enough in their relationship to handle a few things and it seems alcohol may have played a factor in some moments of immaturity. But we feel it comes down to the where you are in your life. There was another couple who had only been together 4-months! But they were honest and open with each other and tried out soft-swapping. They both were very sexy and we have seen a few follow up segments about the lifestyle on other channels and they were on there still having a great time together. 
We have really enjoyed watching the show with our glass of wine while in bed as it really gets us in the mood and leads to some amazing conversations of where we would like to explore in the lifestyle.  There is nothing like seeing some passionate scenes play out that are similar or in some cases identical to what has been on our minds, and then turning on some sensual music and getting under the covers and just start touching and kissing passionately! The first few times we both could see it in each other’s eyes that we wanted to talk about the show and thoughts that may be on our minds. Thoughts about our limits and comfort levels but may have been a little nervous in how the other might react even if we have been honest with each other for well over a decade. However, we have learned that by being honest with each other we have had even more amazing sex! It is such a turn on for your partner to ask you to tell them what is on your mind as you start playing and that they want you to be completely honest, and then by telling them you see how turned on it makes them and hearing them moan even louder in excitement! 
We have had several discussions of where we would like to explore and where we would like to be involved in the lifestyle. We know that a full-swap is not for us, but we both enjoy watching others, and being watched. Mrs. Swanilla has shared that she is very bi-curious and would like to be with another woman. She feels that if she is with another woman and I am left out, that this may be some form of cheating or that she would ‘owe me one’. We have talked about this on a few occasions and I have explained that from a guys perspective that just being able to watch your woman enjoy something like that is a major turn on, and that we will be together later anyway. We also heard Michael & Holli from the show SWING say the following: “Cheating is based on lies; the lifestyle is based on truth and communication”. When we both heard that, we looked at each other and smiled and it just seemed to click and it makes so much sense.
We also have thought of same room sex, where we play together in front of another couple on the same bed. Or possibly some combination of the guys watching the ladies have fun and when/if we are asked to join we would join in with our significant other and just watch and listen to each other in the same bed, hot tub, couch or wherever we may be. We aren’t exactly sure what 2013 has in store for us, but the last two years we have had some of the most amazing sex we have ever had together. We seem to be turning it up a notch each year and we are enjoying every minute of it!
Come and unwrap your gift!
This will probably be our last post of 2012, as we have a lot of commitments through January. However, we wish everyone a great holiday season, be sure to have fun with candy canes (oh, how they can be dipped into some hot places) and fun under the tree! Just don’t let Santa catch you!
We will be sure to post what naughty things we do over our holiday break and if Mrs.Swanilla wants me to open my gift under the Christmas tree!